2010 -???

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FormerMember

31 Dec 2009

Well, here goes my first blog thingy.

Its very nearly 2010 and I am sitting at home with my 2 dogs wondering what the next year will bring.

Somethings I already know , like my husband has adneocarcimona of the lymph glands in his chest, inoperable... and maybe else where- we will know after the PET scan on Monday.

Allan was treated for throat cancer in 2007 and now cancer has returned. The news from the consultant is not very encouraging at all. 12 months without chemo and a bit longer if he has it.

I just want to feel better able to cope ..to help him, but I am struggling. I cant believe we have fought this once before only to be slapped in the face again.

I am becoming morbid and depressed and thats no good, what should I do?

Who can help me so I can look after him?

We have plently of friends and family who are supportive but I am slipping down a hole

FormerMember over 15 years ago

Don't take the time limits literally they cannot know anything for sure I was terminal at diagnosis, approx 6 months they said, I am still here three years on so it proves they don't have all the answers.

Take each day at a time, live for now, don't ponder too long on the past or the future, enjoy each other and make every moment count. Live, love and be happy and worry about the future when the time comes.

There are some lovely people on here who can offer support, guidance and advise when you need it, people who have been where you are now and beyond, keep blogging and try to keep doing things you enjoy and give yourself some time to relax don't try to do it all yourself there is help out there just ask, mac nurses are really good and I have found their comfort, advice and guidance so helpful. You should never feel guilty that there should be something you feel you should be doing, you are with him and that's all he wants.

Jackie x
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

you stopped slipping when you joined us

screem and shout thats what its about

suport you want

suport is what you get

now take care

(((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Deb, do what you do best......love him, be there for him and then come on here and shout, moan, cry, laugh! This site is like a punch bag, you can let of steam on here and everyone understands, even if it is complete gobldeygoop you write, someone will have a sympathetic response to come up with. We would be totally lost if this site finished tomorrow. You cannot talk to friends and family the same, you have to be there!!

Come on girl you know you can do it. If not go see your GP and have a chat with them. Mine is very good with me. I always thought you had to have something wrong with you but that is not the case. They are also a shoulder to cry on. Caring is not easy but without any training whatsoever we do it!!

All the best for you both for 2010. Speak again soon.

Cherryl xx
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