Didn't start Chemo

Dear Sue,sorry to hear this about your dear dad, no words... just thoughts and prayers for you and your family xxxx

Oh my word I'm so sorry, that is so sad.

We found the same though, they only look at the area.  My dad had bowel cancer, but also a separate lung cancer.  He had treatment for lung cancer only.  After 3 chemos he had a CT scan and it's only because dad was complaining about pain around his hip area they decided to extend the scan to cover his abdomen, I mean seriously how much more would it cost/involve just scanning everywhere!

I know this may sound awful, but I hope you dad is not suffering and falls asleep quickly so as not to prolong his pain any longer.  Big hugs xxx

Sue, after all you've been through - now this. How are your children coping with the situation, or haven't you told them? I don't know what to say except that we are here for when you want/need us so don't hold back. And don't forget you can have a major meltdown in The Room.

With love and hugs,

 Twirly xxx 

Hi,

Thank you for your kind messages.

Yes, the children are aware of the situation, my mum said we shouldn't tell them, and then say he died of a heart attack or something when he goes so they don't think everyone dies of cancer. I don't think this is a good idea, and when I am on the phone they overhear things, and know Grandad is in hospital. So I decided it was better to tell them the truth, anyway it comes out in the end and I don't like lying.

Mollyb I hope it is quick too, for everyone, though apparently I'm not allowed to say that. So I'm glad you did.

Dad says he doesn't feel ill, but he also says he isn't on any medication, though apparently he is on steriods. He doesn't understand why his legs don't work properly, and is convinced he'll be fine once he gets home. We are making arrangements for him to go to a hospice, as my mum would not be able to cope with him at home, he would drive her mad and she would end up hating him, which I don't think would be good for either mum or dad.