goodbye

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wednesday 23rd february 2011

my dearest husband died this day.

he had been admitted into a hospice for respite care and he just relaxed whilst under their wonderful care. He was there for two weeks.

I was with him at the end, whispered in his ear that we should sleep now as it was 4.35am and he had been very restless up till now. He slowly relaxed. I said again ' let's fall asleep together. I'm here with you'.

At 6.15 I woke with a start to a silent room. He had passed away within the previuos 30 minutes. The nurses had been checking regularly, their last one was at 5.40am and he was sleeping.

The funeral was on monday 7 march. The sun was shining brightly and over 200 people came. Our 9 year old daughter was wonderful and read out a poem her daddy had written and our 6 year old wrote a message that was read by a very close friend. I am so very proud of them.

but now there is a huge gaping hole in my life. I know time will heal but time doesn't help on a day to day basis.

He was loved so much and I am so very very sad.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    my thoughts are with you and your family. i lost  my husband 6/12/10 we have three chikdren 17.12.12. i have just gone back to work this week. it's a journey we go on. and we have to be strong for the kids however much we are hurting. take an hour/day at a time. he wil always be around you all xxx

  • Hello cookiemeg,

    I am so sorry for your loss.

    No words can help at the moment, I`m sure.

    Just wanted you to know I understand your feelings. Just be kind to yourself. Be with your children, your husbands true legacy.

    Take Care

    K

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Cookiemeg,

    Its never easy to know just what to say in these circumstances, You have my condolences.

    It does sound like a very peaceful end with him knowing you were there until the end, then he felt secure enough to slip away when he knew you were sleeping. He will live on forever in your heart and the faces of you children.

    You have every reason to be proud of your children, they sound so very mature and loving.  Your husband must have been loved and well respected with so many paying their respects.

    Obviously I have never been in your position but maybe the biggest hurdle you will face is feeling alone at times. There are so many caring people on this site who understand your position from their own experience and not only will they listen  but they want to.

    I know time will bring some of the happier memories to the front to replace some of the mare recent sad ones. I hope life starts to treat you more kindly soon.

    Hugs

    J xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Meg,

    My thoughts and sympathy go out to you and your Family. May your Husband R.I.P.  Look after yourself and the kids. May you have the strength to face the future.

    Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Meg

    ((hugs)) to you when words won't do. I am glad that when it came,your husbands passing was peaceful and he had you by his side, my heart goes out to you and your children for your loss. Wishing you strength to face each day, one day at a time.

    With love, Sharonxx