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Throughout my life, I never imagined I would face something like this. For 43 years, I was never ill and never worried about my health. Fast forward to two days ago—I was told I have kidney cancer. I didn't take the news well; I was devastated and am still broken by it.

Many questions are racing through my mind: Why me? How did this happen? Could this have been avoided? If so, how? How will I pay for my rent and bills if I'm unable to work? What about my family? As the breadwinner, how will they fare after the operation? What if something goes wrong? What will happen to my family? The kids are still young; they still need their dad. I am incredibly stressed at the moment.

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  • Hello  

    Welcome to the Macmillan online community although I am so sorry to find you here. The Community is divided up into cancer specific groups and I would advise you to join the kidney cancer group where you will "meet" community members on the same or similar journey - here's the link you need:

    Kidney cancer forum 

    If you need any help navigation the community please do get back to me.

    Best wishes - Brian.

  • Everyone of us patients that go on this site, have and are still going through feelings and anxiety that they never in a million years thought that this situation would happen to them. At 43 you are young and hopefully that will go to helping you in your treatments that you will have to go through. 

  • no one can say what the outcome can be, but many of us on here will be here for you when you want to have a chat, rant, or just to write down how you are coping. Some are stronger than others, but we do know how at odds you are right now, as we have been through this ourselves.  Sometimes its ok to talk to someone who is going through the same situation It helps  Mine isnt liver it's lung. But join the kidney site......they can talk more about your treatments...Good luck, i wish you well.