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FormerMember

17 Jun 2011

I am a new member, my Mum's funeral is to be on Monday 20th June 2011 only 4 months after we were told she had 6 months left to live, of which i expected her to have a little longer because i stupidly belived they under estimated her life expectancy!

I have followed the forum with out joining the community for some time now for advice & insight so i would understand how to help my Mum & Dad (& the rest of my family) although i never really belived (deep down) it would happen.

I read on the Macmillan forum, it was very quick & unexpected in most cases, This is, the single, most hardest thing, i have ever had to endure.

I cried so much before it happened, i cried while it was, i cried so much for the first few hours after, & now, nothing.

I feel i need to be strong, strong for my Dad who is in deniel, strong because i want to pay tribute to a loving & devoted Mother, stand infront of people when i am far from confident (& proud to say, just like my Mum).

It's only been 7 days. How do you move forward from this, when it is what it is.

I should be strong, i should understand.

FormerMember over 13 years ago

I am very sorry for your loss. My thoughts & prayers are with you and your family at the moment, and hope this will bring you some strength and courage.

Sian x
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

Hi Chloe,

So similar to what happened with my dad over ten years ago. Went from being a reasonably fit moderately active 82 year old to being unwell and being diagnosed with throat cancer which either developed or spread with alarming speed in his brain. We had less than six months with him from diagnosis. Like your dad my mum went into complete denial and I'm sure is what caused if not accelerated her decline into dementia. After several prolonged hospital stays she has spent the last five months in a care home which is where she will now stay and has only now started to talk about dad..
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

Sorry. Hit the wrong button & posted before finished.

You must draw strength from family and friends, get advice and help from bereavement counsellors or whoever else and try to get dad to accept and talk about mum.

I truly do understand what you're going through and have in front of you. My sincere condolences and hopes that you will cope.

Dave
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

Hi Chloe,

First Iam very sorry to hear about your Mums Passing May

she R.I.P.

You seem to me to be a very strong person who thinks of everybody but themselves. Come the time your Mum will give you the support you need to see this sadness through. You will give your Dad some of that strength he will need. You are a very special young lady and your Mum would be very proud of you.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Sarsfield.x
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