No one is alone when it comes to ANY kind of cancer but sometimes when we need another's human contact it just isn't to be found...at least, we can't seem to find it. With the group 'Ovarian Cancer' we can find the human touch. We can laugh, cry, get info, give info...just be a person somehow touched by Ovarian CA. Welcome. A big tight hug for you.
FormerMember
i know how it feels to be on the outher side , twice, as a man,
Duncan you have done nothing wrong. I have stage 3 ovarian cancer which was found during emergancy surgery last August, After the operation I was also suffering from DVT and 3 pulmorary embolisms, I was very ill !!! During that first montth in hospital my family told me I said some very strange things to them, things I was aware of saying. Whether it was the morhine I was on or the hypoxia (lack of oxygen to the brain) they could have been offended only my family had been through the same thing with my Dad before he died f cancer 13 yrs ago. He blamed me one day and called me a bitch, he also told my brother he was wicked. All very upsetting but it wasn't my Dad it was how ill he was and the medication he was on. My family keep pulling my leg about some of the things I said to them.
Whether it was their illness, the drugs they were on or even possibley anger at the world in genral for having such a terminal illness ....... it wasn't you. When someone is told they have cancer their world is turned upside down ..... for me it even seemed quite surreal at times and I wondered if it was all a bad nightmare. When your told you're terminal you then begin to grieve for what might have been etc, and part of the grieving process is anger ... we usually take it out the person/s closest to us. I can;t tell you exactly why they blamed you ........ I can only give suggestions in the hope it may lessen a little your loss. Yoiu may find talking to a bereavement counsellor helpful or a Macmillan nurse.
