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FormerMember

11 Jul 2010

First time doing this so hopefully this is right. My mum had breast cancer 23 years ago and now it has infiltrated her ducts and also in her bones and lung but xray showed she now has lesion in her bowel! she lives in spain with my dad and although the treatment is great her support is 0%, I go out as much as possible, she does want to come home. The spanish theory is to try everything until the end and they dont talk about life timing limits. So what is best, for her to be here with better support and pallative care or keep going with the chemo????? but chemo showing it not working as bowel was a shock ! i just want to see her everyday but cant. Is it going to go to another organ and is the bowel cancer going to take over more than the lung. Just dont know xx

FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Vanessa, so sorry to hear this about your mum. It's a tricky one. My thoughts have always been keep trying, who knows, but I know a lot of people believe that quality over quantity of life is the answer.

I hope you manage to work something out.

Best wishes, Christine xx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

If your mum wants to come home and the chemo is not working then she should do whats best for her. Your mum needs support at this time, it must have been a shock when she was told the cancer had gone eleswhere even with

chemo. It doesn,t sound good Vanessa.

Talk to your mum and dad and tell them whatever thay want to do you will be there for them as this is a worring time for you and you only want whats best for your mum . I hope things work out for you all what ever you all decide.

With hugs LUCYLEE. XXXXXX
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Venessa,

What ever your Mum wants to do so be it . If it makes her happy to be at Home.Then its her choice

the one thing I would ask is would you be able to cope.??

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xxx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

hi everyone sorry things took off and i went out to bring mum back on july 21 with the air ambulance but she passed away july 22 in my arms, i did keep my promise and brought her home the following week. the one regret is not acting sooner and believe in something that wasnt going to happen.

a part of me has definately died and i dont know it is just horrific xx
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