ok i walk with a frame. or go in a wheelchair. and sometimes dribble. but i am not thick! do you get patrosed too by very kind people? i bet even steven hawking does. it sounds ungrateful. i
Oh dear! I expect you've heard the phrase, "Does he take sugar?" I'm sure you're a bright button and you shouldn't let well-meaning people patronise you - tell them to '***' off!
I remember how nurses were sooooo patronising to my mother. I took in a photograph of my mum in her prime and told them what a vibrant person she once had been - they regained respect.
No its not ungratefull, You are just a making a very valid point. Its sad to hear what you say - but maybe all too often we judge a 'Books by its Cover'. Maybe just another of our predujdice that we can all be guilty of at times and need to be more aware of.
Sometimes it is hard to know how to approach or treat people who have a disability - the honest answer is we should just treat them the same as anyone else we meet.
I think it is because we do not come in contact with disabilities often enough for us to build our confidence - which shows up our weakness not Yours !
This is not a deliberate policy but more down to the pace of life were we do not have time to get to know people, easier to text or email than sit and talk.
Thanks for making this point and maybe next time we all try take a few minutes and see beyond the 'Cover'
I had some of that when i was in a wheelchair - a woman said to Irene "How is he today" and Irene said "why don't you effing well ask him!"
I had a young man with cerebral palsy who could only speak using a stick in his mouth on a computer keyboard. He raised thousands for charity by organising shows and got the artists to perform for free. One night he was in Cotgrave and I was told he was in charge so I asked him how he wanted the stage lights to be, what he wanted with the PA system, what was the running order etc. At the end of the night he thanked me profusely for treating him like the intelligent person he was. Keep it up. The being patronising is theri loss, not yours.
Hi there, I know exactly what you mean, my sister is thalidomide, and has had people patting her on the head, ignoring her when she tries to purchase things in shops, and many many numerous other patronizing insults over the years, people think because she has deformed arms and legs that she is some sort of idiot.... But she has been mayor, sky dived and written (and published) her life story, been married, and has 3 grown up kids and 4 grandchildren.... she has done more in her lffe than all her other siblings ( we are a family of 7 kids) put together, how does she cope with this treatment you might ask.......well it's because SHE knows it's them that are idiots and stupid and feels sorry for their petty insignificant useless lives.....
