Today is the 17th of feb 2009
We were told mum shouldnt have treatment yesterday as it wouldnt help her, its finally starting to sink in slowly and i HATE it.
she has so much to live for, my sisters wedding in july and the main focus is watching her grandchildren grow up.
I have found that the doctors arnt actually very helpful which hurts so im arranging for her to see a private specialist to see if he can help anymore.
I also found a book about natrual ways to fight cancer and i normally dont belive in that kind of stuff but the re-views have been AMAZING!!
on the bright side my mum is very strong and she just keeps saying im not going anywhere yet so im glad she is that kind of person.
Anyways i send my love to who ever else is going though this nasty illness.
Lets just keep fighting day by day xxxxxx
FormerMember
If you mum has been told conventional treatment won't help, then you have nothing to lose by trying some natural remedies, but just check with her GP that they're safe with her condition. And yes, get another opinion - again, you've nothing to lose. I'm really sorry you're having to deal with so much at such a young age, and your poor mum has already has to endure so much, but I am sure she is comforted by the fact that she has a daughter who cares so much. My daughter is also 21, so I have some idea of how you must be feeling. Its great that your mum is strong and positive so keep fighting.
So soory to read your post this subject is close to my heart my dad was diagnosed with adenocarcinoma early jan his tumour is 4cm, and just one lymph node of his stomach affected too. He has been told he can have chem to try and shrink tumour if this works chemo. Just wndered why they have said no treatment for your mum. I know its scary and the statistics arent good, and why has it happened to us. But all I can say is stay strong and stay positive for your mum as she will need you. I know it is hard I am having to do the same for my dad, it is gut wrenching, life will e a rollercoaster. Thinking of you. I am quite young too.
Hello Becki, I'm sorry to hear about your mum's prognosis,You're doing all you can for your mum, no one can ask more of you or of your self. Best Wishes, to you, your mum and all of the family.
I don't know if this will be at all helpful, as I know you don't want to lose your mum and you are dealing with all that swirling around in your head. But my mother chose not to do any treatment because the odds were only 3% that it MIGHT do something. She was only 62 and had battled 4 previous cancers successfully. It broke my heart and was very hard for me and worse for my sister. But her point of view was that it wasn't worth sacrificing her quality of life during the time she had left for perhaps a couple more months for her life to be extended. While I cried myself to sleep with her decision, I knew it made sense for her and it was her decision so I supported it. I will tell you that in hindsight, having those 6 months with her and NOT having to have her sick from treatment and running back and forth constantly handling it, was indeed, very special and wonderful. This is quite different in that it hasn't been your mum's decision, but I applaud you finding ways to extend her life with alternative options. Just try not to be too invasive in your efforts. That can become quite stressful and be all consuming of the time you do have. Hope I haven't offended. Best, Lori
They have offered chemo but 1 doctor is going by the book and saying it wont help, but we went to the family gp today and he refered us to the royal marson, mayb looking into keyhole surgurey as the major operation she can not have because of her MS.
I think she is very brave choosing not to have chemo for the moment but none of us want to lose a family member so im glad she is having a second opioion. At least this way we know we have gone down all paths to see if anyone can help.
praying everyday for anyone who is going though this.
