Hello to all you lovely people
I am the daughter of an amazingly resilent and determined beautiful mum who has struggled with breast cancer and a despicable divorce and whom got the all clear to then have a seizure on holiday and find metastic tumours in her brain!
My question is how can I be helpful to her without being a hinderance?
For my sins I have spent the last 15 years working with people who have acquired disabilities or health conditions to find different ways of living the lives they want to live. I have worked witht he most wonderful people who have picked themselves up and found life again in a new guise.
My mum now lives alone - in Warwickshire and I live in Manchester - the seizure on holiday warned me that there were tricky times ahead and its not till next week where we find the results of tests as to the journey ahead of us.
My mum and I are different yet same people. Our outlook to life is different - I feel people should share what is troubling them (albeit with people they trust) and to give back to those who hurt or damage us. Through assertive technqiues rather than physical assaults.
I want to help my mum by offering support - helping her to find her independence but at the same time as keeping her safe. I suggest things that she ignores........although my husband and half brother would give her the same ideas and she will take them on board.
We have though talked about life and death, the here and the now and the distant future. I have listened and carried out jobs for her and I have told her nuemrous times how much I love her and she me...
So why do I feel inadequate?
I know its work in progress and she is living with cancer I am just on the periphery but how can I help her to keep safe without taking over?
