Mum Has Passed Away :(

Hi Beckie, I really feel your pain.  You are so young to lose your mum.  Remember that your mum will always be with you in your heart.  You won't get over losing your mum but you'll learn to live with it.  I'm sure your mum is looking down on you and is so proud that you got that job.  Have you considered going for some bereavement counselling?  I lost my mum on October 14th and have arranged some counselling.  I did this because I lost my dad when I was 22 and didn't cope well at all.  Years later I had a meltdown and went for some bereavement counselling which helped me.  It doesn't work for everyone but it might be worth a try.  Your GP can refer you or your local hospice may offer the service.  Failing that you could contact Cruze.  Take care of yourself Beckie.  Love Caroline XX

Hi Beckie

I dont know if this will help you  but in Groups  there a Memory Group you could write to your mum in there  i write to my v  in there

I am sure your Mum is very proud of you  xx

take care love janice xx

Hi Beckie,

I do know how you are feeling as i cared for and nursed both my parents through cancer to the end, my father had bladder cancer (as i now do! & the same type!) and my mother had skin cancer that was a rare type that spread to other parts of her body, in both cases at first we were shocked to learn that each parent had Cancer, but as the time went on we learnt to deal with it, however when the end came and although we knew it was coming, nothing could have prepared me for the shock, I could not speak for nearly 3 months after my dad passed away, i could not even go to his funeral, as i had had months off from a new job to care for him in the final months, and had to return overseas to work, that was so very difficult being so far away from the family at a time like that, i felt that my whole life was in taters and with a masive void where my Dad had been.

The only way my mother could deal with it was to turn to drink, and she became an alchoholic for the next 8 years, that was a complete nightmare until one day she just stopped,  then she too was diagnosed with skin cancer on her nose of all places, after having a new nose, it then spread to her breasts, shoulder, bones, jugular and jaw, and in 2 years it took her also, its been 4 years now and i still think about her every day, likewise my father has been gone for 25 years and i still think of him every day, i have their wedding photo by the front door, so every time i go out or put the alarm on i see them, as young people in their prime of life.

I find it helps me to get by each day, I hope my story gives you some strength to fight on, just like your mum had to, she will always be there on your shoulder guiding you through life, I know mine are.

Take care, and talk about it all you can, it deffinatly helps.

Pauli..........

Hi Beckie,

My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your Family at your very sad loss. You might not see your Mum or hear her,but if there is such a place as heaven . You had better believe she is looking down at you and thinking how proud she is of her little girl.

May your Mum R.I.P.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

Hi Beckie,

I am so sorry to read about your Mum, you are so young. I am 38 and currently nursing my Mum through uncurable cervical cancer and everything you just wrote about wondering how you are going to get through it and wanting to call your Mum to tell her you have the job etc... all of that is what I am already fearing. The big thing for me will not be having my Mum at the end of the phone to ask her all the silly things I do from day to day.

I agree with celiswan you should seek out some bereavement counselling. I know I will when the sad days comes that has me in your shoes. I really think its the only way I will cope. As celiswan says it works for some, so maybe give it a go.

You are a wonderful young girl and congratulations on your new job and I wish you all the success in the world at becoming a nurse, I know your Mum is looking down on you beaming with pride.

Try and stay strong pet, I know its hard.