I really need someone to support me!!

Sometime love, life throws so much at us, I don't know the reason behind and sometimes young people are left to deal with terrible things. You reach a point when you are at your lowest and then some how find the strength to lift yourself back up. You keep giving your mum and dad your support and we will support you, so when things are almost unbareable come back to us and we will try and help you...love Carol x

Sending you a really big HUG XX

Thank you all so very much for the lovely messages! i cannot explain how much you all are going to help me! thank you!!

I have been supporting my Dad as much as i can but some days i find it so hard not to break down and cry in front of him. I dont get upset in front of my Dad otherwise he may not think i am strong enough to support him... So i try my very best to be a strong as i can be.

Last night i went to see my mum is hospital and i just broke down into tears, i had to walk out of the room because it was soo hard seeing her looking disabled. She was crying saying she hates being washed and etc by the nurses and she doesnt want to carry on. It hurt like hell.. I am feeling at the moment for these past 2 years i have been so so strong like rock hard and sort of pretended this was not happening too me... Now i feel its hit me like a ton of rocks and i am finding it so very hard to keep myself strong... i know i can be and i know i will be because i am me, and i am like my mum. she brought me up to be the way i am and i will always forever be thankful to that... I just miss having a mum so very much now. And i wish some how i could do something but i cant :(

Its been alot harder for me recently as all my friends just stopped talking too me.Because i wasnt going out etc, they have been nasty too me and i dont know y! i just dont know why people cannot understand how hard this is for me.

All i can say to you guys is thank you so far! i really feel like i going to help me :)

xxxxxxx

Hello Beckie,

I'm really sorry that life has thrown so much at you when you should just be starting out in your own life. I was a bit older than you when my mum died of lung cancer - I was 33, she was 57 and my dad was 74. I had a lot of the feelings you describe.

All I can say is that clearly you are being strong for your dad - but you are all in this together. Showing your feelings sometimes isn't weak - in fact I'm sure you know that having a good cry can make you feel much better and stronger, and your dad loves you and won't be upset that you feel the same way that he does about your mum.

I'm sorry too that you've lost a lot of friends - I think the trouble with having to face this so young is that your friends don't have the life experience to deal with what you are going through. In fact it scares them. But the other thing to remember is that it's not disloyal to have a bit of time for yourself, and to try to put your problems to one side occasionally.

If you have older relatives, uncles and aunts, you will probably find them more useful to talk to.

Anyway, everyone here will sympathise with you 100%, and you can complain and be fed up and say whatever you want, and people will understand.

You asked whether things will get better? You have all your life ahead of you. You are having to go through a terrible time now, but yes, in the end things will get better, and the love and care you have given your mum and dad will stay with you like a reward for the rest of your life.

Take care, keep it up,

Jim

Jim your message was amazing! thank you soo much! i wish you all the best too xx and send you my love!

Your message brought a tear too my eye it was that nice