Have booked a holiday, going away next Friday. The Oncologist said if we want to go away, to go now as my husband is well at the moment and he can start taxotere treatment as soon as we get back. there is less chance of this working than the original chemo, but we have to try. It is seriously so scary, we thought we would have the summer to act normal and he would not have to have any more treatment till much later. The Ocologist said they hoped it would be stabilized for 6-8 months, and he was rather surprised it had started growing already. He only finished his last round about 3 weeks ago.
I am having problems letting it all out, i feel i need a good cry, but i have got so good at keeping it hidden for the kids, I feel all tied up inside. I am so scared time is running out.
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I hope you have a good holiday. There is the willow trust on offer to you as well as your husband is only 40. They can arrange a special day for you two or the whole family depending on what you want to do. If no one has recommended you for this then contact them on: www.willowfoundation.org.uk - this might give you something else to look forward to.
Can the treatment not clear the glands? Do you have a macmillan nurse that you can talk to as they are wonderful people that you can lean on.
Try and have a nice holiday x x I hope to hear an update when you return.
hi there i hope you both have a great holiday with the kids . its important that you get some me time & be able to express how you are feeling .its hard work being a carer but to do it you must look after yourself as well . i think talking to a macmilllan nurse is a wonderfull idea also at the hospices they have a councelling service its not just for beravement its to talk about how you are coping with what is happening all around you . please don't keep it all bottled up otherwise you will make yourself ill . come on here & shout & scream we will listen . i found writting a journal helped me i have a book in my bedroom that is private just for me i write my thoughts & fears in there . let us know how you are & how the holiday went take care love n hugs theresa xxxx
Have a lovely holiday, you all deserve a break. All the above advice is useful especially talking to some one who understands your situation, so do contact Macmillan, they are there for you too. Tell us how the holiday went and also come and have a rant when you need too, Best wishes linda
Our Oncologist is putting us in contact with a Macmillian nurse when we get back. My husband had a couple of days of an upset stomach, I was beginning to panic that it was the cancer, but I have had it too what a relief. He is being totally amazing, and his laughing and joking about losing hair soon, its his way of getting through it. What a star!
