5th Feb 2010 Bertiebassett

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FormerMember

5 Feb 2010

I can't believe it is the 5th Feb already where does the time go !!

Bert is feeling a lot better today although not out of the woods yet they have stopped his IV antibiotics so fingers crossed. We are looking towards Thursday for going home as we are have a hospital bed installed in the house he is no longer mobile and cannot get up stairs to bed, A little rearranging of furniture in the sitting room and we will have it in there where if he wants to he can watch TV. He has a catheter in and that will remain in which will help me as I was having to change him 7/8 times a night he also has his medication for aggression and agitation in a syringe driver so he is an awful lot calmer.

The consultant said today that this infection ( I don't think they actually identified where it was) has been much worse than any previous infections.

He wants to go home to die as the thought of the hospice terrifies him and there is no way I can change his mind so rather than make things worse I will keep him at home

We were discussing (I was) what would happen if he spiked a temp and I did not bring him into hospital.The consultant said that this would be fine so long as his GP was happy to give him antibiotics at home. Soon it will be time to withdraw treatment as it is no longer helping him but I would wherever possible like to keep him home. I was sure he would agree to this which he has but I still need the option of admission if I cannot manage at home with him

I have stayed with him all week in the hospital and they have been very good but there is nothing like you own home.

Love Teri

FormerMember over 14 years ago

Oh dear Teri! What can I say? I have decided I would prefer to die in a hospital environment but it is a very personal choice. It will be hard on you and I pray you will find the strength you need to get you through.

Much love

Christine xx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Oh Teri my heart go's out to you! I have been in your position so I know what you are going through. We do it for love. I send you my love and wish you strength to be able to keep your Bertie at home. Lots of love Julie XXXXX
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Teri, I am at a loss as to what to write here. All I can say is, you have our support (such as it is) and our love & strength.

You are amazing xxxxxxx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Thanks ladies, God only knows where the strength is coming from as you know it is not easy. But while I still have him here I will be strong. Don't know what will happen at the end of this but that can wait no use worrying about that too.

Love Teri
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

My brother-in-law Bob died at home. I stayed with my sister and brother-in-law the day before he died. and a Marie Curie nurse came to stay during the night, he died at 8am. All I can say was his passing was very peaceful and the help my sister received was outstanding. She had 2 ladies come to help with bathing and dressing Bob in the weeks before his death, and the MacMillan nurse came regularly. She even came to see Bob after he had died.

I hope that if Bert does stay at home that you get all the support you deserve.

Thinking of you both.

Angela xxxx
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