Tangled up in blood vessels

Hello out there, My Civil partner was diagnosed a few weeks ago with an inoperable adinocarcinoma and the biopsy has confirmed it. She is 54 and was working until diagnosis. We now know that we have possibly a year together until she dies. We have entered a new and strange kingdom called Cancerworld which is full of MST and movicol and trips in all directions. We are waiting for the Oncologist to leap into action and offer palliative chemo....another decision she has to make. Maybe someone who has similar can help me with how best to help her. So far we are trying to be as straightforward as possible with each other but is this too brutal? Surely I will have to take some of the stuff elsewhere as she gets more tired and ill? I feel very alone even though friends are queuing up to offer support.