Hello out there,
My Civil partner was diagnosed a few weeks ago with an inoperable adinocarcinoma and the biopsy has confirmed it. She is 54 and was working until diagnosis. We now know that we have possibly a year together until she dies. We have entered a new and strange kingdom called Cancerworld which is full of MST and movicol and trips in all directions.
We are waiting for the Oncologist to leap into action and offer palliative chemo....another decision she has to make. Maybe someone who has similar can help me with how best to help her. So far we are trying to be as straightforward as possible with each other but is this too brutal? Surely I will have to take some of the stuff elsewhere as she gets more tired and ill?
I feel very alone even though friends are queuing up to offer support.
Annie, I am sorry to hear that your partner has this terrible diagnosis. My husband and I were also very open and honest with each other. We did this because we felt that it was important for our relationship and our sanity to talk about how we were feeling. We were also honest with family and friends and if they asked questions they got honest, no nonsense answers. It is important to be able to talk to an independant person too and that is where we come in. There is always someone on here who will offer emotional support if you want it. Take care x x
My muminlaw was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on 6th April - perhaps we can help each other
Look at my profile/blog and try to pm me (link bottom left near profile picture) - I will be back online later as I have to go visit mum in hospital now
Thank you so much Dev for your helpful comments. We are continuing to be honest and open but it often means buckets of tears and a lot of hard work. However I think you are right about it being the only way to stay sane. Also the only way to keep a real relationship going - otherwise we are just treading water until the parting.
