O my God it is so bloody intense. I am worried about her - she is looking a bit green around the gills today and has has a couple of nasty bouts of nausea. She is worried about me - sometimes I actually look more ill than she does - tired and pinched. I had a really hard weekend at work and just feel desperately upset most of the time. We have just come to the end of a fortnight of visits from relatives from whom we don't usually have visits. Sometimes I feel as if the whole show is just held together with a rubber band.
How on earth do we cope?
FormerMember
Annie
Feel for you - been there
You r feeling totally helpless at the moment - it wont help u 4 me 2 say it gets a little easier
Thats not really true - it doesnt get easier u just adjust to it
All you can do is fight the good fight and meanwhile love each other and talk to each other. Be honest about how you feel. Laugh, cry, make the most of the good days and endure the bad ones the best way you can. Each day, hour, second is to be savoured. If the phone calls get too much gently tell people you or she can't talk right now because you/she needs to rest. Or even let it go to answer machine and pick up the calls when you are able. The thing is, people either ring constantly or don't ring at all for fear of intruding. There is never a right or wrong way for any of us to deal with these things.
If the nausea doesn't settle then I suggest contacting the nurse assigned to you to see if she can suggest a more effective form of anti-emetic (anti-sickness pills).
