Facing life without my mum

dear Mooser What a sad story . Im a dying Mum with children I have a lovely daughter like you My story is differant, for 20yrs i have had a reacurant tumour on my face but all the time it was benign, had 9 oprations so all that time the kids knew so it is a differant tale except after 2 very larg OPs over the last 2yrs we were told it is now malignant and there is nothing else they can do for it. It is sad and to be told so near the end is sad all round. But what a lovely Lady your Mum must be to hide it from you and live with that on her own all that time.Its down to you all to make sure you do not let her feel guilty, she did that to save you worry. Please do the same to her,as im sure you will.Let me tell you one thing, she is more worried about you than she is for herself, that is a fact believe me,I know.Lots of love to you all. I do hope I havent affended you Kessie xx

Hi Mooser ((hugs))

I am sorry that you find yourself on here, I know how much you are hurting. I lost my Mum  7 months ago, after a short battle against cancer (having beaten breast cancer 14 years previously). It seems too hard to contemplate life without your Mum in it, and all I can say is don't look too far into the future or berate yourself over 'the what ifs' . You cannot change the past, nor know wthat the future brings, but you have the present so make the most of every day with your Mum, make memories to last a lifetime and hold back the tearsxx  It is difficult living a distance away, try to free up as much time as you can to be with your Mum, you cannot be superwoman so let the housework suffer if you need to make time. I agree with Kessie, your Mum will be more worried about you than herself. One of the few times my Mum broke down was when she told us that she wasnt scared for herself , but didnt want us to suffer for her. It is not easy to come to terms with, but you will find strength that you could not imagine you had. Sending you ((hugs)) and wishing you strength to help you cope, your Mum is lucky to have a daughter who cares enough to feel this way, best wishes Sharonxx

Kessie and Sharon, bless you for your advice, thank you so much xxx

hey

I know you wrote this a while ago. But I have a vaguely similar story in that my mum didn't tell me about her breast cancer. She probably would have kept it from me for as long as possible, she was diagnosed about 3 months ago I think and I only found out by accident.

I can only begin to imagine how you must be feeling, I can completely understand being upset about not being told. It's such a difficult thing, I think mum's try and protect us so much no matter how old we are, it's their way of telling us that they care. Little do they realise it makes it harder on us.

I do hope you are coping well and your family are pulling together.

Lots of love and hugs

Lia x