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Hi Michael

Sounds like it's just happened so quick for you all. I don't ever really give "advice" in life, but I am a good listener.  I found, when my Mum was diagnosed with cancer, that we had no option but to be positive and the first thing a friend told me to do, was buy a vitamin supplement, with all the antioxidants in them - so I did, at Holland and Barrett. I also, on a friend advice, bought pomegranate juice and grape juice (Welch's) to boost the antioxidants in Mums body.  The theory behind the "antioxidants" is that they fight off cancer, so we wanted to blast it away... My friend also said that a good, healthy diet and the vitamin supplements/juice would prepare the body for the treatment ahead, eg, rather than being run down, the body would have more defences and energy to combat side effects of treatment.

If your Mum never rests, try to get her to, but of course, if she doesn't feel like it, don't push it.  I hope you are all around for your Mum.  That's a really good thing.  If close family are around, nothing else matters.  Oh, another thing my sister was good at, was saying to neighbours at the door, that Mum wasn't really up to visitors - my Mum would never turn anyone away, but, the tiredness/lack of energy you get when you're fighting cancer seems to be overwhelming, so I'm glad my sister did that. Positive thinking, if you all can do that.

Alison 

I'm sorry about your mum's cancer :(

Defintely keep her positive, it is such an amazing thing to do and it will help keep her spirits up.  Make sure she keeps eating lots of good, wholesome foods and things she enjoys to keep her energy levels up, even though her appetite may be surpressed.  Do things that she enjoys and wants to do, even if they may seem a little crazy.

Laugh when you can, smile when you can and hug a lot.  Tell her how wonderful and brave she is and how much you love.  She will be scared and she needs you.

Awful times :( there is nothing positive about this at all, we just have to believe that she is strong and can get through this.

Hi we had a meeting with the consultant on thursday and were told that there is no treatment.we asked about timescales and were told it would  be months .

Bit of a shock hearing this but everybody trying to be positive

michael