GRRRRRRRRRRRRR !!!!!! 20/04/11 - 00.21am

Ramble as much as you like! Be angry - but try to be angry with the cancer as far as poss. Be posiitve - 70% is better than 30% and it could be the other way.

In spite of my prognosis being bad, I have been lucky - coming up for my 7th chemo and have gone out for meals in the free time between sessions with colleagues from my former work and with family. I cannot give assurance that your sis will be able to but cross that bridge when you get to it. Everyone is an individual and we all react differently.

That is just as true for the people around the patient, from crying to anger, from hiding from it to ignoring it, from visiting to disappearing coz they don't know what to say.

Don't be too angry with your dad, it maay be his way of coping. Support your sister all the way and try to keep her positive, it does help if there is someone you can talk to so stay on here and put your feelings down whether posisitrve or negative. Someone will try to help!

Luv

Mike

Thinking of you very much as you watch your sister start her chemo journey. Anger is very much part of the journey for some people, as is denial which is the way that your parents are choosing to deal with it. Try not to let it get to you too much but I do understand your anger very much. Thats why these forums are here- so you can share your anger and fear with others that understand.

Hope all goes steady with your sisters treatment and don't forget to take care of yourself.

Julie.

hi hun im sure the chemo will go fine i was absolutely terrified before i started mine its the fear of the unknown and the stuff you read about side effects sure doesnt make you feel like its going to be ok but remember some people have few side effects and others have many but im sure it will be fine the actual chemo insertion isnt that bad as i first thought and thanks to the wonderful people on here i wasnt so frightened when i went in for my first one im on no 5 now on friday ...yes some people just dont want to face up to the truth and show it in all sorts of weird ways my sister hasnt even phoned me since my dx or to even ask how i am oh well makes me all the more determined im going to beat the b......d good luck to day girl love and hugs to you both jenxxxx

Dont families drive you mad, you should try husbands, my one is one of the best, however he deals with my cancer by insisting on positive thinking at every opportunity,i am not allowed to feel tired because he read somewhere some people dont,anyone undergoing chemo will tell you the tiredness can be all consuming, but i have to keep going doing the house work taking the dogs out running our business, he is not an unkind man but he thinks by keeping me active i will remain positive,i,ll let you into a secret i love my husband but there are times i could stab him in the eye all i want is him to takeover at and let me wallow in a little tlc but the truth is he is struggling with his fears , I know all this, none of us a perfect, your sister has you the sane one and the rest of the family i am sure there is plenty of love amongst you all thats whats going to pull her through LOL lynxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Bindy,

All the best to you and your sister. Look after eachother. Good Luck to you Both.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx