As i go though the daily wait of finding out whether my bloods are recovering,and the fun wait at the end of the month decision by a group of people, half of which i never met or seen who will decide whether i get to have a second go at HDC or be termed as incurable,
My mind ponders many things, this time it's the terms 'battle' and 'fight' when used in conjunction with cancer treatment, i for one firmly fall into the 'really get bugged and annoyed 'by people telling me to keep fighting and battling, camp
Im know im in a minority but just cant stand it , cancer is a disease and im having treatment for it, someday i will die maybe of cancer maybe of old age
But you never hear people say 'he lost his fight against old age'
Or he lost his fight against a heart attack.
It just such an awful depressing thought that if i do die of cancer, people will start saying
'He lost................'
FormerMember
U will never be a looser. Yr a winner fighting to be better than the rest
I agree with you Damon. people told me the same. I imagined myself dressed as a Templar knight doing battle with a huge dragon which to me was the cancer. every night I would go through this scenario until eventually I started to dream about It. but to a lot of us It Is a battle mostly just to stay sane. In my case I fought depression I fought against the radiotherapy I was not going to let It pull me down. I joked about my cancer. my daughter asked me once where I had been all day I told her I had been to the grave yard to pick out my plot she actually believed me I had to tell her I was joking!. I was not going to let It get to me. It was hard but I fought and now I'm getting better. cancer Is the ultimate foe don't underestimate It. It not only affect's you It affect's your whole family your friend's. the treatment Is on going you never know when It's going to end. so yes for many of us It Is a battle.
I know what you mean, with cancer everyone thinks we should all be fighting on. To be honest it is a fight and a battle. But one that I personally don't want to keep fighting. When people said to me 'you have got to stay strong and positive' I thought well, why? You wouldn't say that if it was heart disease or diabeties. It's just assumed we will win if we keep fighting. Sadly not always the case. I know they all mean well, and perhaps I would say the same had I not been through this horrible journey. Sometime I just sit and cry and let it all out. It does no harm and a bit of welling in self pity actually picks you up!! Keep sparkling :-)
If it'll help, I can make you some giant cancer constumes for the people saying that to wear so you can battle them instead.
They do of course mean well but I know it's a pain when people recycle things they heard on an America made for TV movie to try and make you feel positive about what you're going through. I think the feeling behind it is that if you're positive, you might make it through a little more unscathed and there are good examples of this being the case but remember, it's your cancer and you can cry if you want to.
You're going to have to keep going though I'm afraid (fighting or otherwise); you promised me a pub and you ina skirt and blouse! ;)
Miss Sparkle. you are right. I have a genetic heart condition. It can stop beating at any time and In the last three year's It has three time's and It's a battle I will never win. and you are also right no one has ever told me to fight It. since I had cancer It seem's to have been forgotten. every time I had therapy I had to visit the cardiologist to have It checked.
Loubylou. It's your cancer and you can cry If you want to. I'm sure many people have. I know I have. I treated my cancer with contempt. I hated the thought of having this thing Inside my bladder. but the only way I could deal with It was to treat It as an enemy and using my mind actually fight It. we all find our own way to cope and Damon has found his way.
