no wife cards

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Today has been a strange day. I have not cried much though I have got to the edge of it more times than I can count, the lump in the throat and the welling in the eyes but then it stopped, I don't know why.

I went to the supermarket and I thought that I could cope with buying my sister a birthday card, it is her birthday next week. so I went to the card isle and looked for sister cards. But the unexpected feelings came because sister cards are next to wife cards! It occured to me that I will never get one of those, too soon after our wedding for there to have been any event for him to buy me one! friend and fiancee cards, but no cards to my loving wife, and there now never will be. Equally i don't get to send him a husband card. Although last valentines day, knowing the wedding was approaching I sent him a husband card and wrote 'to be' on it.

There are so many things we will never get to do.

I also think its about time i told people that Temple is my married surname, a name i have only been using for 3 months and had no chance to change it on any legal things (eg banks) until after Mark died. My name is Becky.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Becky

    My deepest sympathy on your recent loss. Wish I could say something that would ease the pain, But

    nobody can. I will send you my strength,caring and Understanding if you wish. Take care I am here if you want to talk.

    Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Dear Becky

    I am so sorry for your huge loss, its such a tragedy.

    I hope you can find some comfort, albeit small, from the site and that your friends and family are understanding of your pain.

    One day at a time Becky, at your own pace.

    love and hugs, Claire x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Becky, no wonder your other message still had the raw pain so evident.  I've been married 34 years and when I was told I had cancer my husband took the news worse than me.  When I lost my father, I found it so hard walking into shops when Fathers Day cards were on the shelves, buying a wreath at Christmas instead of a jumper or some such.  Time does make it easier but you never forget.  Be proud with your name of Mrs Temple, it represents the love you both had.  Take care