Ambassadors of Positivism

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I am starting a new Blog which I name as New Beginning

Usually people are worried and depressed when they are diagnosed with cancer and think it is end of their life. But I would like to say I am starting my life new with a new perspective and hence the name

Let me introduce myself. I have been diagnosed with Adenocarcinoma of Rectum (Stage 3) in June 2017. I underwent the usual Chemo radiation, Surgery and Chemotherapy. I had a temporary Ileostomy for few weeks which was closed.  I am in my 7th decade of life and am a medical professional still continuing my active practice. Though I was in medical field and on the lookout for symptoms it was fairly late in my diagnosis as I never had any symptoms or warning signs. I was not depressed or worried though I was well aware of the consequences. May be because I was in the medical field or the fact that half of my immediate family met with same villain (but different cancers). I didn’t even go through my full course of chemo because of severe side effects.

I wish to share my experiences and to motivate those who are suffering from cancers to fight it. One need lot of support during the initial treatment period and Macmillan Cancer Support is doing a wonderful job in this field.

Ambassadors of Posititivism

I have read and heard many cancer patients saying their life ended when they were diagnosed with cancer and they were in a tunnel with no light at the end. Even the immediate family members feel the same. I don’t know why people are so afraid of cancer. It is true that cancer is a nasty disease but after all it is only one of the thousands of diseases. Cancer can cause lot of pain, discomfort and can drain you physically and financially. People are diagnosed with heart diseases, liver, kidney and other major organ diseases but they are not as scared as cancer. As per 2015 WHO reports the number one cause of death is Ischemic Heart Diseases (15.5%), Stroke (11.2%), Respiratory Infection (5.6%) and cancer is only 3%. But still more people are afraid of cancer. Many normal people die from accidents every day but no one sits at home without driving vehicles or going in public transport. So why should you be scared of cancer? Modern science is progressing and there are cures and effective treatment for many cancers today.

It is proved that a positive attitude in life is more important in your life whether it is in your career or personal relations or fighting diseases. The response to treatment is always better in persons who have positive attitude and have a strong will. This is true for all diseases from common cold to cancer. I think life feels better for optimistic people who thinks a half filled glass of water as half full ( not half empty) or a partially opened door as half open ( not half closed).  Face life boldly whatever may be the challenges.

Don’t be a captive of negativity but an ambassador of positivism. After my surgery I was having an Ileostomy bag (for emptying my bowel) and a urine bag which was strapped to my leg. Someone who visited me asked whether it is a nuisance or am I depressed by it. I told him I am the luckiest man in the world as I can empty my bowel and my bladder whenever I want and that too in public!! Moreover I can piss through my foot (as the opening valve is fixed there)!! Physically nothing changes but your positive attitude always keeps you happy and moving. I encourage you to be positive and try to keep smiling even if you are going through difficult periods. This will keep your close ones and your caregivers too happy.

Second point for today is to keep active during your treatment period as far as possible. I have been working during my period of radiation and chemotherapy. I only took brief periods of leave during my surgery and post-operative period. We call this Distraction technique which will keep you away from your pain and distress. I am a strong believer in Jesus and Faith is always better than medicine sometimes. It is a fact that different people with the same type and stage of disease respond differently to the same type of treatment and it is true even in case of identical twins. So there are many things which we still don’t know and I want to believe in the supreme power.

BE POSITIVE AND KEEP SMILING

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I am completely with you on this. I have been diagnosed with cancer 4 times in the last 10 years

    and have always been positive. Ther is only one thing I fear returning is depression , far worse than cancer.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi all I’m a brain tumour sufferer since jan 2011 so been lucky with all my treatments but as of mon this week 20/5/19 bang it all changed doc said months not years now !!!! So back on the oh heck Prayily thoughts but still strong PrayPrayThumbsupThumbsup

  • Hi Diamondgeezer. Sorry to hear the news and happy to hear that you are facing it bravely. I presume you are a strong personality from the choice of your screen name! Life is always full of surprises and I believe there won't be any fun if it is an open book. Doctors are predicting from their medical knowledge but there are many things beyond medicine. I believe in miracles and try to keep myself positive. Three of my siblings and my father died from cancer and I am a survivor. Never give up whatever may be the problems. Have faith and miracles will happen. God bless you.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Bless you Abram53 for encouraging others through your own experience. I am a carer for my husband who was diagnosed last year. His experience has in no way been straightforward: post initial surgery his kidneys failed, his bowel ruptured and he had sepsis. But GOD intervened and he has managed 7 months of chemo and is waiting for a one year CT scan which if clear will allow him to have a reversal of his loop ileostomy and correction of a massive surgical hernia. Like you, his positive mental attitude has been central to the progress he has made and the power of prayer and support of family and friends has been a tremendous support and encouragement to all of us. 

  • As someone how has written a long post on my hospital stay which I am not told is required reading for all hospital staff and often reply to posts of other people apart from making many of my own, I of course agree with you. Where I differ is that for you it hastn changed your life. My life has fully changed. I can hardly eat or drink, have to use the peg, cannot sleep, can hardly breathe, or walk and have to swallow a long tube daily to keep my food pipe open. If this isnt considered a major change of circumstances I dont know what is Also if you read my posts I had to change hospitals because my regular one wouldnt put in the correct peg because it was dearer and told me to use painkillers instead. I document everything on this site, so you can read all of it. My doctors tell me that I am still positive and cheerful unlike most others of my age and like dealing with me. If you read my blog on here  you will find many more things about how to accept your condition.