“Don't feel guilty whatever you do. You're doing your best in a rubbish situation…” (buttercup01) – Family and friends

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 "Family and friends" written over a sepia picture of two women riding bikes down a country lane

Our Community is for everyone affected by cancer, that can be the person with the diagnosis, or the person’s partner, husband, wife, son, daughter, relative, colleague or friend.  That’s why we have our Family and friends group.

This is the second Community News post in a series that looks at our Family and friends group which is a great place to get advice on talking to, listening to, understanding, and helping someone who has cancer.

Here are a few recent highlights from the group to show how vital a source of support members of the group are to each other.

Helping my friend

Pippin66 posted on the Community for the first time asking how to best help a friend:

“…I really appreciate the guidance you have given me here and will certainly follow up on it. This is going to be a hard journey for all who love my dear friend and it’s nice to know that there are people out there who understand (*hugs back)."

Community users want to do their best for their friend and family members with the diagnosis. But sometimes it can be hard to know what the best thing is to do. Often the support isn’t there from people they know, who can be struggling to cope themselves, or perhaps worried about saying or doing the wrong thing.

Turning to the Community for support

“…Does anyone feel like they suddenly have very little in common with their friends after a cancer diagnosis?  My dad was diagnosed with AML last year and I've been so shocked at how little my friends seem to want to help…”

Marianne1

“…That was one of the reasons why I joined this site…It's like the subject brings up so much pain for them they don't want to even be in the same room with it…” 

Zoejet

The best advice is sometimes found on the Community itself:

“…Thank goodness for communities like this. When it feels like you don't have anybody, you can come here and get a lot of support. You're never alone...”

Jen_is_a_fighter

Go ahead and share your thoughts on being a family member or friend of a loved one diagnosed with cancer in the below comments section. You can find and join our Family and friends group here.

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