On this day of remembrance across the UK, we’re talking about bereavement support in this Community News blog.
We understand that the death of someone close to you isn’t something you ‘get over’. It’s something you attempt to come to terms with. The Community can be a comforting place to share your feelings and get bereavement support from people who understand.
“I just don't know how to shake this feeling, it’s been a year and it feels raw now, it didn't feel that way last year I think I was just in shock, but I can't help but feel so lost without her.” - Mario189, bereaved family and friends group.
Learning to live with your grief can mean so many different things to different people. There’s no set period of time in which you should expect to ‘feel better’.
“No one knows how they are going to feel from one day to the next, but there are things you can focus on that at times might help.” - Davidzmum, bereaved family and friends group.
Reactions to death can be diverse and there’s no wrong or right way to feel. You may feel worried that there’s something unusual about the way you’re dealing with your grief. Some people might have a sense that it’s taking longer than it should to feel ‘normal’ again.
You might find it hard to speak to your family and friends about the way you are feeling, especially when time has passed since your loss. The Community provides a safe space where you can talk about your grief, without the worry of how it might affect your close relationships.
“I don't like the term "moving on" because it sounds to me like we are leaving our loved ones and the life we had with them behind. I like the term "moving forward" as it implies that, while life goes on, our loved ones are still with us in our hearts and minds.” – MelanieL, Community member.
It can be comforting to know that others are going through similar emotions. When you’ve lost a parent, grieving for the loss of a spouse, family or friend, there will be someone to offer you support in the Community.
“I would not have got this far if it was not for the people within this group, they are my extended family, and someone is always here to listen to you.” – Ellie 73, Bereaved spouses and partners group.
In 2020, we have experienced the extra challenge of lockdown. When you're cut off from your usual support network and feel isolated at home, the Community can be a virtual warm embrace. Why not join in with the conversation now? You will find the bereaved family and friends group here and the bereaved spouses and partners group here.
Have you used the Community for bereavement support? If you’ve found it a comfort to be here, or have any questions or comments to share with us, we’d love to hear from you. Please use the comments box below, or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org
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