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Hi. I was diagnosed in March with primary cancer in bowl with small secondary tumours in pelvis and liver. Plan was chemo, radio then an op or two. After 4 rounds of Folfox chemo I had a scan, it appears the cancer in bowel has massively grown and spread throughout liver and into lungs. I was told that I am incurable, no prognosis in terms of how long I might have. I am starting a new chemotherapy tomorrow whilst they do tests to determine whether I have a specific mutation that is immune to chemo. At which point will need an alternative treatment. 

My head is spinning, I can’t believe I have gone from hope to be cured to given a death sentence in a couple of months. I have two children aged 9 and 5 and have no idea how to tell them this. In fact, I have no idea what to do about anything. 

any advice would be greatly appreciated. 

many thanks 

  • Hi 

    I am so sorry to read your post ! What a difficult time you have endured .

    On reading your post I wondered if they have mentioned immunotherapy and if you know a bit more about your cell type ! If it is then there is some very positive results coming through from America . People with MSI and lynch syndrome in America can now have it as first line treatment . Not sure if it applies to you but worthwhile looking into . My friend used it for a spread from lung cancer which was literally extensive and responded very well .

    Just wondered if you knew a bit more about your cell type . You might also like to join Bowel cancer U.K. and they can point you in the direction of a group for stage 4 patients who share a lot of information on current treatments /trials etc . I think you will find them pretty well informed . 
    Hopefully they will be able to get the required information on your tumour type quickly and get a better treatment option for you .

    We are fully here for you to listen at any time . You might also find our helpline useful when it comes to telling children . They would be able to get you the best supportive information and possibly point you all in the direction of some counselling.0808 808 0000.

    Take care ,

    Court 

    Helpline Number 0808 808 0000

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to court

    Thank you so much for replying! When I was told it was curative I didn’t really seek out details, probably avoiding it. I have now requested all my reports and scans etc so I have more details. Apparently I was screened as to whether immunotherapy would be helpful but I don’t have that type of cancer. Currently awaiting test results to determine exact nature and whether it is resistant to all chemo. 

  • Once you get that information they will be able to tailor your treatment. Another member here  recently posted about a treatment I had not heard of before called Braftovi . I think ! The only reason I mention it some mutations work better with specific treatments . I had not heard of this treatment yet it seems to be tailored for braf mutations . Just to give you an example of finding the right treatment for you might give you a better response and the oncologist will be able to define that better !

    I am so sorry you have had such a blow ! My mum was the same regarding information to begin with and I can see the benefits in that approach. I did however do a bit of reading around to see options and availability. I also had my eye on second opinions too ! 
    What chemo are you having tomorrow? 

    Even if you want to PM me at any time I am here to listen . 
    Court 

    Helpline Number 0808 808 0000

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hello Willowfred

    I'm the bloke that Court mentioned in connection with Braftovi. I had previously been on a regime of Folfox and some other stuff before that and neither of them did a dickiebird. Then an old pal of mine sent me a newspaper article extolling the benefits of Braftovi to the, I believe, one in six people that have a certain gene mutation  - and I'm one of them. 

    I have now had seven fortnightly treatments. I also now have zero stomach pain. Zero. Tomorrow I will have another CT scan which I guess will determine my fate. Im surpressing the optimism in case the scan says something different to how I feel. My condition is inoperable so I'm rather hoping that Braftovi has saved the day. 

    Hang in there girl, the fat lady ain't singing yet Blush

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thanks both for your helpful comments. Tomorrow I’m starting Irinotecan, which my oncologist has told me may be completely ineffective if I have specific mutations but we are still waiting on the results to come back. 

    Gaul I really hope your scan tomorrow comes back with some positive results. I will keep everything crossed for you. 

    i should also point out I’m a bloke! I find choosing usernames almost unfathomably stressful and all the obvious ones were unsurprisingly taken. So I went with my favourite tree and my middle name!

    Court if I can work out how to PM I will no doubt take you up on your kind offer. 

    all the best 

  • I did that once on a cancer site along time ago . Used my sons name ! It was quite interesting for a bit !

    All the best  and I am hoping the scan backs up the reduction in symptoms . Has to be a good sign surely! 

    for some strange reason there is a subgroup of patients who do better with Irinotecan

    Hope it goes smoothly and the correct information surfaces soon !

    Friends request on its way !  
    Should show up in your emails  !

    Take care ,

    Court 

    Helpline Number 0808 808 0000

  • Hi Willowfred,

    I've been on this site since I was diagnosed the end of last year. Have only just started posting. I don't know enough to give any advice regarding treatment. I do know from reading other people's posts that there're many treatments. Sometimes it's about finding the right one. I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this. It's devastating and a lot to take in. My advice would be to take it one day at a time. Give yourself the time to process everything. Allow yourself to have a meltdown, completely normal. Take any help that's offered. Don't give up!

    Cheryl x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to court

    Court, well everyone really...

    Another rush job to the old infirmary yesterday with chronic bowel pain - after all the crowing I'd been doing about my perceived progress. Hmph. The day after the CT scan ffs!

    They're starving me. Got a pipe up my nose and into my stomach with another bag suspended around my neck collecting the delightful proceeds. 

    About 10 am this morning I got the visit from my Oncologist and another important looking woman. She/they had studied my CT scan. I went cold. I was told that my bowel was kinked. I was also told that they felt that they could do something about it. Then I was told that the tumours had reduced in size!!! . I had trouble taking this in so I said 'are you telling me good news?' 'yes I am' says she, holding my hand. Bravo Braftovi.

    I've now got, it seems, several more days in here, hoping that I immerge stronger and for a bit longer on the planet.

    I've been battling this bloody desease since September 2019 so I reckon I'm due a bit of good fortune.

    So take heart those that can't see any light at the end of the tunnel cos I think that I may have just found it. So may you. 

    Gaul

  • Dear Gaul,  

    Reading this and all the posts here has made me feel very warmed. I am so pleased that you have had good news. Nicola. 

  • Yippee 

    Thats incredible news ! So pleased for you and glad that” other important looking woman”  turned up to give you the good news ! Still loving your writing style you, you have managed to retain that throughout this !

    I am sorry you have a hospital stay to endure and not liking the sound of the tube up your nose but also hoping they resolve the issue and get you home soon !

    So pleased your friend found Braftovi . It’s even got a nice name !!

    You have made my day !

    Court 

    Helpline Number 0808 808 0000