Stage 4 ! The unexpected hits you between the eyes!

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Think everyone here can associate with the overwhelming emotions that come with a cancer diagnosis in a family . The pace of change is fast  and in a stage four setting each procedure and consultation just kept getting worse and putting distance between the safety of the life that used to be and the one that was emerging and in the early days I kept wondering how on Earth did she end up here , going from being asymptomatic to taking part in the newly rolled out bowel screening program and ending up inoperable only a few weeks later ! 
I think we all stopped looking for a cure and focused on living from scan to scan . Over 35 scans later a deep appreciation for the way they have  contributed to my mum’s survival surfaced . She carved out a good life for herself but thought it would always be part of her life !

I am cleaning out her attic as it will come as no surprise that she is frequently found dangling from unsafe ladders despite neuropathy and we need to act! A proper staircase needs to go in ! 
The hospital consultant rang whilst I was up there and what a surprise! They congratulated her for reaching five years without a further recurrence. Twelve years of surviving stage 4 cancer and all she has endured . They don’t  expect to see further disease , don’t need to scan and could be discharged but they will phone her in a year to check up on her as she is not quite ready to cut all ties ! 
They consider her “ cured” ! Well done mum and many , many thanks to her wonderful team ! We shall in a strange way miss you all !

Hope it brings a little encouragement to those going through the very difficult period of being diagnosed!

Take care ,

Court 

  • Thanks Court, I have finished my chemotherapy and my scan results are 'stable' So doing ok x

    Sarah 

  • Hi Court, what fabulous news, you were the first person I spoke to on this forum when we received Dave's shock news back in November. You were so generous and we have been and continue to be inspired by your lovely Mum's story. Dave's first halfway scan showed much shrinkage, his bowel tumour hardly visible, pelvic tumour barely visible and liver  and peri tumours were almost half the size. He's still inoperable at the moment, but we still hope. His CEA was 7,000 at diagnosis 14,076 at the start of chemo several weeks later, and after the first scan it's down to 846, and now with one more cycle to go 146, so he's a good responder and the CEA a very good marker for him. He's starting maintenance chemo after this weeks cycle, so we're anxious about that. Blood wise finally his waning 7.3 hb is up to normal at 13.3! Thank you for buoying us up with your kind words and support, much appreciated, love Frances xxx 

  • Hi Court, thank you for asking . I finished my chemo treatment in January ( T2 N1M0) it was a hard slog mentally and physically but slowly feeling better . Still trying to stabilize my bowel habit . Psyllium husk and Imodium is helping . My next scan and tests are in September ( one year after surgery ) it’s a bit weird not having anymore appointments or check ups for a while . I do worry sometimes about cancer returning but I guess that’s normal XX

  • You are going solo  . I think my mum found it a bit unsettling not to have her team too . I totally understand that as they are a great safety net but with time it will hopefully lessen . Nice to be heading away from it all !

    We are freezing here today !

    Take care ,

    Court 

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  • I can hardly believe his CEA numbers . That’s such an amazing outcome and sounds as though things are shrinking and will continue to do so . It was just as you hoped for . I think he has done amazingly well . It will contour to shrink hopefully too ! Some people are just super responsive to chemo !

    I will look forward to hearing his progress.

    Court 

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  • Stable is always welcomed news . Such a relief . I was just saying to my sister the anxiety attached to scans takes a bit of managing for sure !

    Good news and I am pleased for you ,

    Court 

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  • Sounds like a good scan , was that with the cetuximab ? It is such a hit to your system but it sounds as though it was effective . However that is a troublesome allergy and I hope Tuesday goes smoothly !!! 
    It has been so encouraging to the developments that have come through and the skill the oncologists have developed with their chronic disease management. 
    Take care ,

    Court 

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  • Hi court, unfortunately the Cetuximab stopped working but it was still in my system which probably caused the reaction.  I'm on Folfox and Avastin now which is a bit easier in the skin and hairLaughing

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    Wow Court, that's incredible. Spreading hope is so helpful 

    Best, Martin

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    Wow, absolutely wonderful to read this thread, I sincerely hope and trust all will go well for the future!