Mother has been advised she has just a few months to live.

Hi,

My mum is 71 and has small cell lung cancer and although she started Chemotherapy we went to see the oncologist at Eastbourne hospital on 13th October, where we was told the two cancers have grown from aprox 7mm to 17mm. Therefore the chemotherapy is not working so they are withdrawing treatment totally. They advised mum just has months to live, but when pushed they gave her 6 months at best.

My Brother and i are devastated naturally and our thoughts are is this true could they be wrong what do we do now is there a second opinion, what should we be doing what should we be asking  and on and on, so we have lots of those questions with no answers.

Any advice would be lovely to hear.

One of the things mum wanted to do is go on holiday so we have booked to take her to a villa in Greece, probably not the best thing to do with covid but its something she really wants so we are going to make that happen for her and us, and we are looking to book a trip in the next week or so.

One thought is on travel insurance i have tried one company that specialises in travel insurance for cancer patients and when I advised she had been given a terminal ilness prognosis they said if its less than 6month to live from the return date they could not offer any insurance.

Any one else had this? any advice on what we should do?

Thankyou in advance for any advice

Gary

  • Hi Gary  and welcome to the Online Community, a Community that no one ever really plans to see themselves joining, and so sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis. This is a hard time for the family.

    A terminal cancer diagnosis brings a lot of confusion, stress and many questions but talking with other people who are on the same type of journey helps a lot.

    The Community has various support groups so first can I direct you to our Travel insurance group as this is the place where people share their experience around travel insurance.

    Follow the link I've created above then choose ‘click to join' when the page opens.

    You can then introduce yourself and post questions selecting '+New' or '+' (depending on your device) you can also join in with existing discussions by clicking on 'reply'. 

    You may also find our Carers only, Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups a great benefit as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey.

    Its always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support or just a listing ear.

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