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Supporting mum with breast cancer

Ljbwood60
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Hi I am new to this community. I am not sure which group will be most helpful. My mum has had a cancerous tumour and lymph nodes removed. She has just finished three weeks of radiotherapy. Which group is best for me to talk about issues and feelings surrounding this type of cancer and how I can best support her? She also has worries in case it has spread elsewhere although has been told it has been removed. I want to help her but don't want to say the wrong things.

latchbrook
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Hi and a warm welcome to the online community

I'm sorry to hear that your mum has been diagnosed with breast cancer and it's natural that you want to support her.

Could I suggest you join the breast cancer group as you'll be able to ask questions about treatment, etc and benefit from the experiences and support of others with this cancer.

To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

When someone close to you has been diagnosed with cancer it's natural to worry that you might say the wrong thing so you might like to have a look at this information from Macmillan.

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KTatHome
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Hi , welcome to the online community, I’m sorry to hear about your Mum’s diagnosis but it’s lovely to have you here supporting your mum. You’ve asked which group is best to support her, to get experience from others which is breast cancer specific I’d recommend the breast group as it’s the biggest, there is also an under 50’s breast group, and a breast secondary cancer group, and a triple negative group that you might want to browse through to see if they might be appropriate. There is also a friends and family group which looks at things from that perspective rather than the patients which can also be very useful as it can be stressful supporting a loved one and similar issues crop up what ever the cancer so I’ll put a couple of links in for you to find them, but feel free to click the group button and have a browse.

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/breast-cancer/discussions

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/being_a_relative_/discussions

its very natural for both you and your mum to worry about it spreading and to worry about saying the wrong thing, you might also want to browse through the information and support pages.

https://www.macmillan.org.uk/information-and-support/breast-cancer

https://www.macmillan.org.uk/information-and-support/coping/your-emotions

https://www.macmillan.org.uk/information-and-support/coping/talking-about-cancer

I hope you feel able to post in the friends and family or breast group to get support from those who will understand what you and your mum are going through. There is also an ask an expert section if you want a reply from for example a nurse.

Best wishes

KT 

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Ljbwood60
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Thank you so much for the link. It sounds a good place to start.