My wife had been diagnosed with Cancer When she was 29. My wife is now 50 and has just had her very first Mammogram which they found an area of concern.
Now I informed my work that I needed to go to the appointment and I gave them a weeks notice, they refused me saying they could not cover me. Another Contractor spoke to them And I managed to get half a day off with pay ( My Holiday). I even had my work clothes on to return to work once Mammogram etc was over. Unfortunately we did not receive good news the Doctor said the Mammogram and Biopsy, it showed a 7mm Small lump which they came across that it would return possibly come back as Cancer.
Now I phoned a friend to tell my Company who works there to say I would not be able to return to work. My Wife was devestated and was crying I could not leave her no way.
I went back to work the next day and sent an email telling my Managers what happened, and I would need to go to Hospital the following Weds for results from the Biopsy they refused.
After more people talking to my employees they decided to give me a day off.
But then I have been told now that because I didn’t go back to work they have called my day a blowout so I will not be paid.
I feel so bloody angry any comment or advice would be greatly appreciated
Thanks so much
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am so sorry to see the circumstance that brought you here and so sorry to hear about your wife.
A cancer diagnosis can bring a lot of stress on a family and an unsupportive employer just increases the stress.
Please have a look through our various Macmillan Support Line Services then call them on 0808 808 00 00 to be very helpful covering Emotional Support and Practical Information. Clinical Information and Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link........ give them a phone as these folks know what all the rules are and what can or can not be done.
We do have lots of support groups that are Cancer specific and also ones that are general Cancer experience groups.
Follow the links to any of the groups and join the group. To do this hit the ‘Join the Group’ tab just under the main group name. At this point go to the right on the group home page and select how you want to receive email notifications when someone answers your posts. If in the future you don’t want to receive notifications just switch off the email notifications tab.
The best way to get support is to go to the 'Start a Discussion' tab just under the main group name. Set up your own Discussion and Introduce yourself to the group - you could just copy an paste what you have in this first post.
We also have these forums where you can connect with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey: Carers Forum and Friends and Family Forum
We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’section where you can post questions to our mostly Volunteer Experts but please allow 2 working days to get a reply.
Our Online Information and Support Section where you will find some great pages covering the cancer diagnosis, treatment and information pages covering most types of cancers.
All the very best to your wife and also hope that you can find a way forward with your employer.
