Invasive breast cancer diagnosis

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Hi 

it’s great to be here with others going through similar situations although no offense I wish I wasn’t but I am 

I was diagnosed with cancer just before Christmas and on Monday I go in for a lumpectomy and also some lymph’s out to be biopsied too .

im trying to remain positive but the waiting is a killer more than anything the not knowing etc

i have two dependent children at home my boy who’s nearly 16 who knows all about it but I have a 7 year old girl and at first I thought I won’t say anything at all as I don’t want to spoil her beautiful happy personality and protect her with her been young 

however I think I should tell her so we go through it as a family , obviously limited detail age appropriate but my husband disagrees it frightens him so today I just said mummy has a poorly in her boobie that is been taken out on Monday which she accepted but I feel like I should join her in the journey and not be afraid to use the word cancer I say to my husband he’s thinking like an adult and it wouldn’t be the same for our little girl as it would all be positive and brief 

I know she would love to help me and cuddle and watch movies if I’m poorly during the journey to success (positive thinking ) 

mid love to here advice or experiences from you all so I can also  share with my husband and we can talk more about it 

sending love and positivity to you all 

ginnie xxx

  • Hi Ginnie  and a warm welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your diagnoses. 

    A cancer journey can be such a stressful and challenging time but you have done the right thing in reaching out to a place where you can ask questions and getting support from others who are on the ‘exact’ same cancer journey.

    The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) so can I recommend you join and post in our supportive Breast cancer support group. This group is a safe place to talk to others with a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support.

    If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the (Bold) Group Link I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."

    You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.

    The Macmillan Support Line is open from 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 where you can talk with someone about specific cancer and practical information, get emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just connect with a listening ear.

    We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.

    We also have our Telephone Buddy Service where you can be matched with someone who understands what you're going through, and they'll give you a weekly call.

    Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.

    Do get back to me if you need further help.

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

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  • Many thanks for your reply 

    I’m new to this and didn’t realise but not sure how to get to that specific group as not tech savvy but I’m trying ha ha 

    thanks you again xxx

  • Hi again  just had a look at your activity and we’ll done, you joined the group and put up your post.

    Remember you can join in on any group posts by hitting the reply button.

    When ever you want to find ‘your’ area of the site where you can find the groups you have joined and the posts you have put up just click on ‘your’ community  and it takes you right there.

    All the very best ((hugs))

    Mike (Thehighlander)

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  • Thanks again I’m just getting headed round the site now and that’s also useful information 

    many thanks 

  • Just imagine that the community has lots and lots of rooms (groups) and these rooms have different groups of people sitting in a circle in various corner having discussions (discussion threads)…… and these are all available by hitting your community name Thumbsup

    Mike (Thehighlander)

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  • Hi ginnie l was also diagnosed with lnvasive Breast Cancer in December and had a lumpectomy a week and a half ago. Have now been put on Anastrozole . Have to say it’s all a bit scary from what l have read on here some of the side effects l mean. I am 70 years and have grown children and grandchildren . 
    My thoughts go out to you and your family keep positive l tell myself this daily xxx

  • Hi Ginnie I was diagnosed with the same just before Christmas and had my lumpectomy and lymph nodes removed last week. It’s a difficult time but I’m trying to stay strong I also have a 16 yr old at home . Sending you lots of love and best wishes Heart Leisa️

  • PrayBles you it’s a rough journey I think probably more so at stage we are as not in the knowing 

    they are removing some of my lymphatic nodes  to biopsy along with the tumor so it’s a waiting game although they feel it’s contained 

    did you just have all of them removed as it had spread or same as me to biopsie etc 

    I’ll  be on tablets as I’m estrogen receptive but stil don’t know treatmeant plan ahead until biopsy come back after op tomorrow 

    Mum lad isn’t sleeping at all but he has adhd and struggles but it’s gotten worse we openenly talk but he opens more up to his dad as I think we all trying to protect each other where I prefer to just talk 

    I don’t know really what to say to my little girl who’s 7 I’ve just at the moment told her basic info that I have a poorly boobie and have to have a nasty taken away from it as at this point not much more to say 

    I’m sending you love and positive vibes xxxx

  • I’m so sorry for you to be going through this 

    did they take some of your lymph’s during lumpectomy as they are me then got to wait for all results 

    have you had same or you just straight into treatment 

    much love xxx

  • I do hope you don’t suffer we go through enough as it is xx