All Considerations for All probabilities....

FormerMember
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I'm recently diagnosed with prostate cancer, been through the treatment consultancy cycle, and been told/accepted that hormone therapy is the best treatment. I have also a shadow on one of my ribs that cannot yet be explained. The disease is throughout but still contained in my prostate and I've been given a probability of 2-5 years with the treatment before it spreads, breaks out, and the likelihoods of where it will probably go! I can't have any more radical treatment because of scar tissue and problems associated with previous cancers, testicular and bowel - which I had survived in my 30s and 40s.

Being 72, I feel a bit of a fraud on this forum because I'll probably die of other/natural causes which I suppose, strictly speaking, does not make me terminally ill? Although, of course, in one sense, we are all always terminally ill.

However, I've wanted to cover all possibilities. I've read on here about people who have been given similar figures and succumbed much earlier. So I've given a great deal of thought generally to Dying with dignity, rather than going into the anxious spiral of worrying about every possible new cure or wondering if I've made the right decisions for my friends and loved ones. I have really hit a blank wall trying to discuss this - except for my daughter who has worked with it all her life. My wife is lovely and sympathetic/empathetic but she has never experienced this sort of thing at this close quarter - she is 6 years younger so will be left to pick up the pieces.

To cut this sprawling thing short is this subject still as taboo as I'm finding it, or am I just not seeing it right or not in the right place?

Best,

Stephen