Lovely Morning chitchat January 2026

Best wishes for 2026 to you too Stella and all the lovely , supportive members of this forum 

Things I’ve learnt in 2025 -

I can’t control my cancer but I can control how I react to it 

Worrying about tomorrow steals the joy out of today 

I’m not responsible for other people’s reactions and I’m not obliged to share details of every bump in this road if I don’t want to 

I am still me and not just “a person with cancer” 

I have many people around me who care about me - feels very comforting when I am in a low mood 

 I don’t want a bucket list , I prefer to embrace normality (personal choice, fully appreciate we are all different) 

I love holidays though !! 

Hugs to all

Lucy xx 

Hi Lucy

Totally agree with you. May I also add 

That we are stronger than we think we are on the list. 

I love holidays too xx

Happy new year everyone. Lucy I don’t want a bucket list either. There are a few places I would like to go, but I think putting them on a bucket list just causes pressure to do them, and I don’t need extra pressure! 

Well the first day of January has been busy already. Our turn to host the new year lunch. It was very nice, we had beef wellington, but it’s hard work on very little sleep. An early night tonight I think. 

Stella I love that, I sometimes think we don’t realise just how strong we are x 

Good evening to you all.

Stella and Lucy you both are so spot on. I am also not a fan of a bucket list. Sure, there are things I would love to do before I leave the conveyor belt of life. Regardless of illness or anything else. If I get to fulfil that it will be splendid, if not so be it. Cancer is not ruling my life, I rule my life and my cancer with the decisions and actions I decide to take.

Another year to look forward to and to have ups and downs along the way. One thing is for sure and that is that whatever life is throwing at us we always have this special place to laugh, cry or rant and rave and know someone will be there to pick us up and give us support or just a few caring words and a virtual hug. Love to you all 

Angie and Lilly xxx 

Hi Lucy,

I agree with everything you said on here wholeheartedly, especially about still being me, and not just a person fighting cancer, which is how a lot of people see me. However, I have mixed feelings about having a bucket list, and I realize there might not be too many others that share my feelings on here, but that's what makes all of us unique. 

Maybe it's my young age as to why I feel differently. Back before my first amputation, I was so scared of that surgery because of how rare and invasive it was, and I had so many things on my list back then. I was still a teen, overwhelmed by fears of becoming disabled, and I just wanted to do fun things with my family, friends, and classmates. This next surgery in my near future will be even more invasive and disabling with many more risks involved. I've thought about having a much smaller list, but mainly it's just local activities that I want to do with my family and friends before the surgery, which we don't have a date for yet. I'm still recovering and adjusting from my most recent surgery before Christmas, and that's left me in kind of a lasting emotional funk, so trying to come up with fun activities has been a challenge.

I had a fun time at home with family, friends, and neighbors New Years Eve watching our local football team the Ohio State Buckeyes play in the Cotton Bowl. Our team lost, but it was a fun time with everyone. Anyway, I just wanted to share my thoughts on having a list, and like you said we are all different.  

~Stacy

Hi Stella, is it next week you have your surgery? My thoughts will be with you and fingers crossed for a successful outcome and speedy recovery. 

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Here is an interesting little article showing why we should not turn to google for medical advice

Hi Patrick

The operation is the coming Monday. Thank you for the well wishes.

Craig and I are going to stay over at London tomorrow night. Booked a nice Sunday lunch as my last nice meal out. I was given 4 nutritional drinks to drink but they taste awful so  I have accidentally lost 2 bottles already. 

Will catch up with everybody in a few days time.

Take care xx

Stella,  good luck for Monday. I shall keep my fingers and toes crossed for you. Enjoy your lunch with Craig tomorrow. Winston will be looking forward to having you back in a few days time . Take care my dear friend, I will be thinking of you xxx love 

Angie and Lilly xx