Hi Folks, Well I've just had my six month checkup at oncology and my oncologist was very pleased but also very apologetic! She was apologising for all the side effects I am living with even although the cancer seems to be under control! I told her the main word there was "living" and without the drug, I wouldn't be!
It is three years now since I stopped the Target Therapy and because of the severe side effects, my oncologist, my husband and I discussed not going straight onto Immunotherapy but waiting until things settled a bit. No one realised I could be off treatment this long without the Malignant Melanoma (stage4) raising its ugly head again but that's exactly what has happened! It's not been plain sailing what with the drug accelerating my osteoarthritis so much, I needed spinal surgery in March. I have an appointment with the Spinal Surgeon next Wednesday. I still have pain issues, especially when trying to sleep. Although I visit oncology every 6 months, I now also visit Opthalmology, Dermatology and the Liver Clinic every 6 months also. Up until now, I've had six monthly scans since I stopped the drug in Sept 16. Before that Everything was 3 monthly, except oncology which was monthly, so as you can imagine the number of appointments have decreased which is wonderful! I didn't get scans this time because the blood results for kidney function weren't very good, so she doesn't want to use the contrast fluid. They will be done in Mar 20!
In a way, it's a weird position to be in "living with incurable cancer" because this is not the life I was expecting to live. I'm not very mobile, which is the worst thing (apart from the pain) and still get tired easily BUT I've just seen our second grandchild start school and our youngest starts next year, so that will be all three at school! When I was diagnosed in May13 and given 5-7 months to live, we had 1 granddaughter and never in my wildest dreams, did I expect to see her with a school uniform on, let alone see another 2 grandchildren come into the world. Yes, I still have some very bad days and but as soon as one of the children say "Hi Gran" with a lovely smile, all the bad days are forgotten!
For those who have just been diagnosed, remember no one knows what the future holds. Miracles do happen. New drugs are being developed all the time. Terminal is now an old fashioned word. Instead think of incurable which can be treatable and there are lots of others here passed their "sell by date" so never give up hope!
My husband and I are off to Salou in Spain next Fri (27th) for two weeks to celebrate our 48th Wedding Anniversary, then in December we go to the Christmas Markets in Manchester and in February we go to Benidorm for Three weeks to get away from the bad weather. So life goes on!! Good luck to everyone having treatment, hang on in there!
Thanks Daloni, I'm sure we will! Although we go at this time of year and then again Feb/Mar because it's a bit cooler. However it's about 26degrees there now and that's way too hot for me but I've got my sun hat, long sleeves and lots of factor 50! Take Care
Love Annette x
Hi anndanv have a wonderful wedding anniversary, and congratulations on your 6 month check if not all the horrible side effects, I hope you have a wonderful holiday - when you and daloni and tvman say now you do not let the grass grow under your feet, well that gives me a lot of hope, and something to aim for, so thank you all for that.
and tvman I hope you have a wonderful 40th anniversary too, I know you have had hard things to deal with lately, so I hope you have a lovely day when it comes,
love h xxxx
Hi Roobarb
Many many thanks for your kind words, our anniversary is tomorrow, so there's a bottle of champagne keeping chilled and tomorrow night we're staying in one of the best hotels in Northern Ireland, having a meal there also and then we'll travel to the north coast to stay somewhere there. The coast is so rugged, the beaches so vast, deserted and smooth and the waves can crash onto the rocks, throwing spray high into the air. Look to our left and North America is over a few horizons.
I am sure we'll enjoy the weekend, Roobarb, you enjoy yours too.
Tvman xx
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