When my husband of 25 years told me last year that he was seeing someone else, a woman 25 years younger that he'd had a fling with once before I was devastated. We'd had some difficult times, but he said he wanted to be there for me after my incurable diagnosis.
This is where I came for support, and to a large extent this support is what got me through. Some had experienced similar and worse situations, so many people rallied round.
I kicked him out, and did not recognise the man that came to the house throwing his weight around and insisting he'd done nothing wrong. He even looked different physically, so angry and it seemed to me, cruel.
And then one day my husband walked back in the door. All I know is that he'd spoken to our youngest son a few days before hand, but the man I married came back.
Maybe he had some sort of break down or mid life crisis, but since my terminal diagnosis I have chosen to be guided by how he treats me and how he makes me feel, rather than try and make sense of what happened.
We have talked and talked, more in a few months than in the 4 years since the cancer came back. His biggest fear is not being strong enough for our sons. We have not talked about what happened last year or the other woman.
My councillor says he shows by his actions how much he cares, and I agree. He's frankly amazing!
I'm glad he's home. xx
You're right Lass, this group is pretty resilient and not easily shocked.
Yes, me too! One of my better ideas.
We have an apartment on the beach with an outdoor pool overlooking the sea, 5 mins walk to the nearest bar & restaurant, 10 mins walk to an underground lake and a mile away from the nearest town.
I've had to cancel 3 weekends away at the very last minute since May because of complications from this chemo, and have a review with the Oncologist the week before, so just have to stay out of trouble for a few more weeks...
Daloni, I'm so glad you had such a good holiday and were able to let the family look after you. You are incredible. I couldn't have coped with a marriage and new baby, and you handled it all with such grace and dignity. Your ex's chickens will come home to roost.
Enough of him. You deserve every happiness with your family and friends, and to be in a good place for a long, long time.
Maybug, it's good to know you have a wonderful husband. Yes, tell him as often as you can!
Love to all xx
Morning Annette,
Sleep deprivation is a from of torture, how do you survive? Hope you got some sleep last night
48 years of marriage, mostly very happy, is an amazing achievement, congratulations! Your husband made a life changing decision when he went T-total, and put his family first. There's such a drink culture in this country and in some professions. My father was an alcoholic, so I know something of the trials and tribulations. You saved yourself and your family a great deal of heartache.
Thanks you for your encouragement. It feels like a new chapter, and it's lovely to see both my sons settled and happy with their partners.
They have chosen to stay in the York area because of my diagnosis and prognosis so I'm very lucky.
Have a lovely Bank Holiday Weekend everyone, can't wait to try out my new sun loungers 
xx
