THE ORIGINAL GANG OF MUSHROOM ROPE BUILDERS (i.e Mel & Em's thread cont...)
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This is the start of a new journey for me and my much loved friends from the original Oesophegus thread on general discussions.
We have become a close group and this will be our new home to continue our journey as life has become very hard for many of us and we keep re-living our journeys with lots of newbies which puts us all back a bit.
So my lovely friends Mel, Sam, Helen, Bern, Jac, Nic, Dawn, Sue, Cath, Lesley, Jani and the many other special friends Mel and I have made over the last 16 months this is it we have a new home.
Love to all and extra strength to carry us through our next stage XXX
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Ok peeps hope everyone is tip top. I didn't get the job - I was just too damned good. Its an awful affliction and one I have had to bare all my life. This is no different!!!!
Not around until next week, as off on client things tomorrow. Even went and bought a new dress for it tomorrow. Oooooo!!
So come on,...bloodyhell, almost forgot. Nic 18 years!! I am speechless. Do you get some sort of gift for that?? Well Done you!!!
Group Hug is needed. I also think a Party needs to happen. One of those has not happened for a very long time. Now you all need jobs... I will bring the butlers in the buff....they won't be midgets this time. Jac - has the goat for carrying the drinks. Mel - well you are obviously on choccie dutues and Sam you are obvioulsy on wine duties......now think, what else do we need??? Need to feel the love. Need to give this illness a real good kick in the goolies. You know you do that everytime you smile and laugh. I'm not making that up, its true..... Nic, Kelsey, Cath, Roch, Michelle, Donna, Den, Em, Sue, SAM....ooooo there should be more. Barbie - no job, cause you just cause mayhem and too busy thinking about that to think of jobs too!!!!
Now get your thinking caps on, we need to P-A-R-T-Y like its 1999!!! Big love to you all. Bern xx
Firstly sorry havent posted for a while ..... have been in a bad place this week and just didnt have the strength to post. Am feeling a little better now though.
We buried Dad's ashes yesterday, very emotional day. Cant get my head around that's all thats left of his "physical being" a little whicker box thats been put into the ground. I know we have all our memories, but I still struggle to believe that he has actually gone .... think I am still in that "WHY" phase!! Went to my Dr's the other day as feel I not being a good mum and finding life an everyday battle. My friend thinks I need anti-depressants, but I think I'm just grieving and I have to let it follow its natural path. Am trying to make an arrangements to met up with the bereavement counsellor at the hospice Dad used. My mum is really really struggling now and that breaks my heart too. Anyway, enough about me ...
Mel..... if you can I would definatley trying to re-negotiate the price. I have just sold my Dad's business .... it was a retail premises in central Brighton. Dad did actually put it up for sale when he first got diagnosed, but it's only now just exchanging and I had to drop the price by £50k since we agreed a price in Feb. The buyer's bank valued it at £125k less than the price we agreed but luckily the buyer is desperate for it. Also a friend is just about to complete on a house in Ascot, and re-negotiated the price by £30k less. The market is terrible. Also mel, was it this month you are going on your hols .... I am working every weds @ gatwick this month (north terminal though).
Em.... Good news about Brooke, do I take it you are not moving abroad?
Barbie ....... sending you lots of barbie love, hows Ken??
Bern ... sorry about the job mate, you were just too damm good. It's a big cross to bear, but someone's gotta do it.... ha ha. Yep up for a party, I'll bring the tunes ... just listening to a little bit of Wham on the radio now.. god I wish I was still a teenager!
Jacs, sending you lots of love and strength xxxxxxxxxxx
Nic.... Not long till your holiday. What you posted the other day about how your feeling is still your grief, it's still ealry days and you have no way of telling how i will come out until you are right in the thick of it. I read something yesterday, that said it can make people very tired and sleepy or it can make them feel "actual physical pain". Don't put any expectations on yourself, just go with it. Sending lots of love to youxxxxx
Sam, hope your ok, loved your picc's on facebook
Rochelle, you are doing really well. I know how you feel about your mums special seat on the sofa, it's sooo hard to get your head around not seeing them there anymore. Sending lots of love xxxxxxxxx Have a lovely day with Mel tomorrow.. have a pimms or two for me.
Sorry if I havent mentioned anyone else, thinking of you all, lots and lots of love, Michelle xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I am sorry for all that you are going through, what we are all going through really. I wish it could have been different.
I know your friend meant well by suggesting anti d's but it still is very early days. You are grieving, you are not depressed, they are two different emotions. There are times when people do not have the strength to move forward in the different stages of grief, and this type of medicine is used to help an individual fnd the strength to continue the journey.
I think that it comes as a bit of a shock to everyone, how we are affected physically as well as emotionally. Reading the information on grief has helped me realise that there is a process, and I am ticking all of the boxes on that list !
We have one huge asset that we have overlooked. We all have each other. We understand in ways that others cannot, we feel each others pain and recognise each others loss. This is what will enable us all the find strength and courage, this is what helps us all feel that we are not alone.
To all my Mac friends, I would like to thank you for being there, always.
Anyone home???? where are you all????? have you's all lost your keys????????????
Em, i know you will be busy with the weekend stay, one of your babies is becoming a young woman and you are wondering, when did this happen??? lol
Jac, you are very very quiet, hope you & DH are OK???
Bern, you are pretending to work somewhere, yea right!!!!!
Mel, your hiding in a bath with chocs, book & candles - your such a slouch!!!
Sam, have you been to the off sales yet??? is the wine chilled???
Helen, my fellow spy, i'm thinking of you
Michelle, Roch, Dawn, Lesley, hope your all OK
My god i remembered 10 names, GOLD STAR FOR ME any one i left out, i,m sorry don't take it personally Have a good weekend Nicki This time next week i should be lying at the pool in a lovely Villa with a large cool drink by my side
Feeling rather stressed to today, all over nonsense really, still wating to here the vendor's decision, even thoush she promised to decide by Friday Morning !!!!!
Wow, what IS going on with this place, we all seem to be getting quieter and quieter. Come on ladies, let's get this thread back on track - our journeys aren't over yet, we still need each other and what Mel said is so true so I'm putting it here as well (hope you don't mind Mel) to remind us all what this thread means to us all.
"We have one huge asset that we have overlooked. We all have each other. We understand in ways that others cannot, we feel each others pain and recognise each others loss. This is what will enable us all the find strength and courage, this is what helps us all feel that we are not alone."
Right, I'll start off and then everyone of us (and I mean everyone of us!) has to post, even if its just a few words. I will let Lesley and Dawn off because they are wanting to drift away from here a little.
It will be seven months on Sunday since I lost my lovely Dad. It has gone so quickly it's unbelievable and it's been quite a journey so far. Although there is still a long long way to go, it feels as though a corner might have been turned. I think I've been able to see a tiny fragment of light again because the last few days, I have been looking more to the future, to the good things in life. I am still grieving, very much so as the deep sadness is still there, I still cry and I miss my Dad so much and wish he could be here but my grief has changed, again. I am in another stage now and know that I have to try and be happy and do things that Dad would be happy seeing me do. It feels as though there is a little hope again. It might not last and next week things might be different but for now, I'm holding on to how I feel.
Em - I know that this is a difficult time for you and that you have an awful lot going on at the moment but we need you hun. Please keep posting, even if it's just to pop in and say hello. I'm glad Brooke got into the school, you must be so relieved X
Melly Mushroom - my dear friend (((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))). As I said the other day, trying to sell/buy a house can be so very stressful and you are having to cope with it, on top of your grief and everything else that is going on. I really hope that it all goes through smoothly for you and everything is crossed here, that it does. Blimey, your poor friend, that was a big baby. Is it me, or are babies being born bigger nowadays? Eek! X
Helen - big ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))) for an amazing, wonderful friend X
SAM Sam - get that wine of yours chilled hun, there's a party on the cards and we all know that you like a tipple too. Must be something about the name! X
Bern - I know you are busy with work and won't be back until Monday. Will speak soon, I promise! X
Cath - well done for doing the race for life last Saturday, you did your Dad proud! (((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))) as know this is a hard time for you too. We are here whenever you need us X
Nic - gosh, 18 years in the same job, that's really good going. I know Wednesday will have been hard for you hun but I hope today sees you smiling at memories of your Mum again. She will be proud of you as you are doing so well. Yes, have wine ready for tonight how about you? One other thing, can I come with you next week? Hee hee. It sounds lovely! X
Rochelle - the part of the journey you are on now is one of the hardest, as your grief is still raw and none of it feels real. We all understand hun and we all have our arms wrapped around you. Just keep taking it one day at a time X
Michelle - I'm sorry you've been in a bad place, you should have let us help you a little. Hun, don't give yourself a hard time - of course you are a good mum. You are grieving and it can be a battle, just coping with all the normal stuff and getting through each day. A few of us have felt like this over our kids and other stuff too because it's so difficult (impossible sometimes) to have the patience to deal with anything at all. Again, one day at a time and we are here for you too. Glad you liked the pics, yours are lovely too X
Kelsey - hope you are ok my friend. How is your Dad doing at the moment? Thinking of you and hope your toe is getting better X
Jac - I am thinking of you often and hope that you feel the love that is being sent your way, from your many friends here X
Wendy - how are you and the little one doing? Good, I hope. Sending lots of love to you both X
Den - hope you are ok, as we've not heard from you for a while X
Sorry all, for the long post. I hope everyone has as good a weekend as possible and remember, don't be strangers!
Well there we are the end of another week...DH in quiet mode but doing okay....he is very dignified and calm....yes he is slipping away but so slowly...bit by bit...some days better than others, some days he tries too hard then is exhausted for days.....he still gets up and dressed every morning, happy to be alive and welcomes each day with such happiness...some days life is unbearably sad but not today..... Have meds under control....and sure every day is a bonus....Think of you all loads....be back soon!
