THE ORIGINAL GANG OF MUSHROOM ROPE BUILDERS (i.e Mel & Em's thread cont...)

Hi ladies,
just nipping in to send hugs and kisses to all of you.
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Hey Den Den,

How's things your neck of the woods?

I wanted to let you know that as the 8th approaches so many of your Mac friends will be thinking of you. I truely believe that when someone passes on their childs birthday they become that childs guardian angel, the best gift that anyone could give.

Be strong Den as we are all standing by your side.

All my love

Melanie X

Hi Mel,
How are you love? we are all fine
Just wanted to say a massive thank you for the support and lovely words, I am feeling a bit wobbly at the moment but I am sure with the help of the kids and all my mates on here that I will get through it
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Dearest Den,

I can only imagine how difficult today is.

My Birthday hit me very hard this year and as the year anniversary approaches my heart gets heavier and heavier. I cannot imagine combining the two, and I wish that things could have been so different.

We are all here for you always, and I hope that today is the day that your lovely Dad is given the gift of peeping over his cloud at you, so remember to blow a kiss skyward for him.

All my love

Mushroom X

I went to bed last night not knowing how I was going to feel today, this morning I was woken up by the boys jumping on the bed full of excitement with pressies and cards for me, lovely start to the day.
Next i decided to check on here to find all your beautiful messages of support and birthday wishes, thank you all so much, they really made me smile. I have decided to think positively and think of today as the day when Dads pain stopped and he was free again, as you say he is still with me its just I can't see him now.
Anyway thank you for your lovely words and hugs
sending them right back at you
lol
Den
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Boooo

Yes it is me, I thought I would post, why cause I can and thought I would shock my truely amazing friends and mad twin, so Mel, Sam, Bern, Rach and my mad twin i am here and Em and Jac you are always in my thoughts.

You know I am a closet surfer and only post to Pam or my mad twin or sometimes on our group thread but today i wanted to post on here to say that I am truely honoured and thankful that I have you all on my journey and that I have found true, honest friends for life and that to me is worth so much.

You are all stars and I love you all to bits, stay strong, keep your chins up and remember we are all on the end of the rope pulling each other when we wobble.

Love to you all

Sue
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This is a post to all my dear friends I have met along the way as a carer even though carers apparantly have no place here anymore.

Christmas will be so hard for so many of you as this will be your first without your loved ones, this s my second and it feels worse than last as the shock was still around me last year.

My dear Dad only wanted to make it to last christmas to enjoy a christmas dinner and a pint with his family and at the age of 51 he was gone from our family without a moments time to think the world carried on turning.

Life has been tough without my Daddy to hold my hand especially when ill myself I have missed having him there to take care of me.

You will all get through this christmas as your love for your loved ones will get you through the strength of love is what holds us together.

I wish we all had a day we could look forward too instead of dreading and I also know our dear friends that are still with us will be worrying about this being there last but they know they are loved by us all.

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Oh Ems what a thought provoking post.... This year I am approaching Christmas with such absolute fear...... I wish life was different but afraid this is reality...... now I'm feeling stronger hope to post more regularly...
I HOPE!!!!!

Dearest Jac,

For a long time after my Mum passed I could not post on share. I would read, but no words of comfort would come. Sometimes I tried to start a message then I would delete as I could not express any feelings at all.

The time following the loss of the love one is such a mix of emotion. There is a relief that their pain has ended, but then the desire to wish them back here with you despite their pain.

Before Mum's passing I was all about no suffering, peaceful ending, no pain. After Mum's passing if someone would have offered me the chance to have her back here but she would be uncomfortable or in a coma, I would have blanked out everything in my mind except the back here bit and signed on the dotted line in a nano second.

Afterwards is also the time when your mind can think again, rather than just react. For so long we spend so much time holding everything in, trying to get through each day, trying to focus on the next appointment that when this has all gone our minds can wander to all the places that self preservation has kept hidded.

I know the depth of grief that I feel for the loss of my Mum, and I also know that I have absolutely no comprehension of how you must be feeling. What I do know is that in sharing your journey you enabled so many to feel able to open their hearts to the true pain that they were experiencing.

I was so very sad to see that your topic had been deleted, although I understand your reasoning, but I really want you to know how much your words meant to so many, and how inspirational your courage was and continues to be.

When you are ready, we will all be here.

All my love, always

Melanie X

Oh Jac,
Hun I know how difficult it must have been to post. I am so glad you have and I really hope you can try to pop in as we miss you loads XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX