THE ORIGINAL GANG OF MUSHROOM ROPE BUILDERS (i.e Mel & Em's thread cont...)
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This is the start of a new journey for me and my much loved friends from the original Oesophegus thread on general discussions.
We have become a close group and this will be our new home to continue our journey as life has become very hard for many of us and we keep re-living our journeys with lots of newbies which puts us all back a bit.
So my lovely friends Mel, Sam, Helen, Bern, Jac, Nic, Dawn, Sue, Cath, Lesley, Jani and the many other special friends Mel and I have made over the last 16 months this is it we have a new home.
Love to all and extra strength to carry us through our next stage XXX
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Sam, We don't know for sure what flavour the baby is, I think its another boy the midwife thinks its a girl. but the truth will be reveiled next Friday when I go to the hospital. Nic, I wish you a very Happy Birthday, I know its going to be hard and I am sending you a big birthday hug xxxx
Computer was down for a day or two so I couldn't post.
In answer to the questions which seemed a while ago now; Bern I went bowling instead of on the steam train. Think I'll save that for a sunny day if we have another one this year!
Sam - My Booky Wook is written in just the way R Brand speaks. I find him hilarious but it's not quite so funny when you have to read all of his meanderings. The book should probably be half its' length! I'm in his teenage years and he's a rather troubled chap so it doesn't make for the funniest of reads. That said I will finish it but at the moment I'm reading Shopaholic and Baby for some light hearted relief.
Mel - You're so dignified and balanced (OK so I haven't seen you throwing a frying pan at Aaron or bellowing at the kids to get ready for school!) and I'm so happy to have met you. That goes for the rest of my friends on here too.
sorry not posted for a while - got the macca concert on sunday night so it's all hands to the pump.
tomorrow is a year since we were told that dad had just months to live. Finding things tough so good job i'm busy.
Just to add to the birthday thing. My Dad was also born on Friday 13th, in January. The day he died? yep Friday 13th, but in July. I remember looking at my brother on Thursday 12th July when the DN said for the first time that it looked iminent and I said oh God tomorrow is Friday 13th and I just knew that was the day we'd lose him.
how wierd.
love to all - have a good weekend. i'm off for a vino and a magnum!
I'm also a 13th birthday girl - but I missed the Friday by a day - I was Thursday. I have had plenty of birthdays on a Friday though and so far none have been too bad.
Happy Birthday ! Remember to blow a special kiss to the sky, for your lovely Mum who must be peeping over her cloud, just to see her special daughter on her special day.
Well I thought I'd sneak another post in whilst I had time. Just watched Britain's Got Talent with little one who was allowed to stay up late for a special treat. I introduced her to microwave popcorn tonight which she thought was 'magic'. You've never seen such excitement! It was so much fun to watch.
Thought I'd share something with you all tonight. Don't worry I'm not feeling down. Dad isn't the man he once was which may be no great surprise I know. He will make jokes about having something or other 'before he pops his clogs' which he will say in company but I know in his own home he is detached, quiet, spiteful and verbally aggressive. He's always been a pretty quiet man content at parties to observe and sit on the outside looking in though with a nasty temper when riled. However, he's almost permanently nasty with mom yet in times of lucidity recognises what a wonderful wife she's been to him. It's such a pity. There's more I could say but I just don't know if it's the right thing to do...
Blimey now you will think I'm depressed! No, I guess it's just another realisation of what's happening and like I said a few post ago, I've already lost the dad I once had. We keep our chins up as best we can though don't we girls. When you think about it we're a bunch of troopers! We deserve a holiday - a free one!!
I am so sorry that things are like this with your Dad. It must be so hard for him but also for your Mum and for you too, to see all of this happening. My heart goes out to you.
Hun, if there is more that you want/need to say, then it is the right thing to do and here is the right place, where you are amongst friends, who understand.
If you ever want to talk my friend, you know where to find me, I will always be here to listen, as will your other friends from this site.
We try and focus on the positives, to give us the strength to get through, but there is always that little crack in the dam of emotions that we have built, that let's the odd trickle seep through.
In my experience if symptoms are addressed early on, there are a lot more options available. Part of you must be thinking well he is under immense physical and mental stress, but another part of you knows the answer.
If I could do my time again, I would definately have pushed things a little more. I know your Dad isn't one for 'bothering' people, but when I got to the end of my tether with it all, I contacted Mum's specialist nurse.
I told the nurse all that was happening, my concerns, and also that Mum did not know that I was speaking to her. She then arranged for some tests to be carried out, as if they were just booked by the Oncologist. We got the results, and if I had just made that phonecall 1 week before, Mum would still be here now.
Another friend did contact someone about their concerns about their loved one, and was given the brush off. The system doesn't always work, but you never know until you try.
