THE ORIGINAL GANG OF MUSHROOM ROPE BUILDERS (i.e Mel & Em's thread cont...)
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This is the start of a new journey for me and my much loved friends from the original Oesophegus thread on general discussions.
We have become a close group and this will be our new home to continue our journey as life has become very hard for many of us and we keep re-living our journeys with lots of newbies which puts us all back a bit.
So my lovely friends Mel, Sam, Helen, Bern, Jac, Nic, Dawn, Sue, Cath, Lesley, Jani and the many other special friends Mel and I have made over the last 16 months this is it we have a new home.
Love to all and extra strength to carry us through our next stage XXX
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Melanie I really hope you don't mind me posting here.
I read your comments and relate exactly to all you say about not being able to concentrate, lack ability to organise and coordinate peoples appointments etc, complete even the simplest of tasks and chores etc. I had this as well after my mum died to the extent where I could not cook a simple famiIy meal and not end up with a wreck, also I was stranded in Canterbury one day minus money, cards and phone. Idiotic thing to do but in the time following a breavement this happens. I cannot say how long this lasted exactly but by a yr later I was somewhere approaching my old self again, just in time for my husband to be diagnosed with cancer- so back to square one, pass go and do not collect £200!
Now I am 2 yrs down the line, my abilities to organise have to an extent returned, but I still have bad times and days and forget the simplest of things. Even now simple things I used to complete without a second thought are a major issues such as management files for work,(I teach so these are a big deal) are a shambles. (I had to edit as when I re-read it wasn't quite what I wanted to say, but have only added a couple of small bits-fusspot that I am!)
This feeling of just not coping is awful , but it does get better.
Mel, you know I relate to so much you have said, as we have talked about it.
What we have been through will have changed us to an extent but whether that will be a permanent thing or not, I don't really know. It would be good to think that we will go back to our old selves but it's not going to happen for a long long time. Our minds have had so much to deal with and we are still having to cope with the enormity and finality of it all. It's a lot to take in and digest so no wonder we can't tackle even simple tasks. Some days, it's a struggle to just get through the day isn't it? This is all perfectly normal though my friend, I do know that and even if we don't go back to who we were, we will learn to cope with things again. So many people who are further along the journey than ourselves, like Juls, Bern, Wendy, to mention just a few, keep telling us that things will get easier and we have to hold onto that hun.
No, sadly some people don't get where we are at because to them a couple of months is a long time and they think that we should be getting back to normal by now. To us it's no time at all and our grief is still very very raw. It makes me feel angry too that those around us think this way, but we can't blame them really as they have never been in our shoes.
Big hugs Melly - I do believe that Mushroom Power will, one day, return.
You are never alone, as you have so many people here, who understand and care. But I do know what you mean.
I have a favour to ask. Can you all send positive vibes.....I have just applied for a job and the deadline closed last night. Eeek!! I am such a tit, that they wouldn't even be able to make a bra big enough to fit me in!! I am a tit of mammoth proportions!! I thought deadline was tonight!! So, it has been sent under title of another job (as the one I am going for has been removed from site!!) and now I have the task of phoning and hoping that they accept it after deadline due to ' unschedueled network maintenance'!
Hope everyon is well. Catch ya later XXXX
OH: I give up with this site at times. I amended this post to say hello to everyone and it bloody crashed on me!! OK, so it is probably my system, but it easier to blame this one. Have to dash, will post better later XXXX
Well, I am a mummy! Thank all you so, so much for all of your congratulations, and I am so sorry it's taken me til now to post. Will is 2 weeks old and I just can't get enough of him, it feels like we've had him for ages. I had a very traumatic labour (31 hours - eek!) and lots of drama with ambulances and blue lights and stopping lifts but I tell you what, it was so worth it and I swear my parents looked after during that time.
I've been reading over the posts for the last hour (Will is in a milk induced coma!) and I'm sorry some of you are really struggling at the moment, I wish I could take all of your pain away. Me, well I have struggled too now and then, I still can't bring myself to walk past photographs of my mum and dad without crying - a mixture of sadness and mega hormones I guess and although Rob has already told Will all about his grandparents with the angels, I find it very hard to even think about them - does that make me sound completely mad?
Am sending you all gigantic hugs and love.
I promise to post again later, just seen the midwife pull up outside.
Oh Wendy, it's so good to see you posting again. I'm so sorry the labour was tough (you didn't tell me any of that in your texts!) but yes, I'm sure your wonderful and proud parents were right there with you, helping you all through and now you have your lovely little bundle of joy. He is a lucky little boy as there are so many of us here, fighting to be his cyber aunties!
Hun, you are bound to be feeling this way about your Mum and Dad, it is so very natural that you find it hard, especially now. They are with you in spirit and watching over you all. Your friends are here for you too, so don't stay away and let us give you some support.
We must have a chat again soon, when you get some free time - bet you've forgotten what that is already!!!
Lots of love and ((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))),
Hello Bern (busy B, hee hee) - sending you loads of positive vibes my friend and I hope you get the job. Keep us updated won't you? X
Emma! - don't you dare slope off again - we need you here and we want to be able to support you through this time. We love you Em and miss you not being around as much X
Mel - a (((((((((((((((((((((((great big hug))))))))))))))))))))) from all of your friends here because we all love you too and don't want you to ever feel alone, you're not X
Den, Kelsey, Michelle, Cath, Lesley - we've not heard from you for a little while, how are things? X
Nic - you hiding again? X
Helen and SAM Sam - (((((((((((((((((squeeshy ones)))))))))))))))) for both of you wonderful ladies X
Jac - (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) for you and your wonderful family. Don't you slope off again either! X
Rochelle - We know this time is so hard, we are all thinking of you X
As I am obviously in a hugging mood today here's a big ((((((((((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))))))))) for everyone.
Lots of love,
Sam X
ps - hope I've not missed anyone, we are a big group again and I keep losing count! X
I know what I'm feeling is natural which is a good thing and I've been crying when it comes over me (which is quite a lot!) Rob has been fantastic and we even had a cry together as he was feeling the same as he so wanted his dad to see he had a grandson. You are right though, they will all be looking down on us so they see their beautiful little boy.
I promise I'll call you soon hun,
To everyone else, hang on in there, me and Will are sending lots and lots of hugs xxxxxxxxx
Wendy - you call when you're ready hun and have the time. I remember how hectic the first few weeks can be, until you settle into a routine. In the meantime, give that little Will a big kiss from his cyber Auntie Sam X
To everyone else - where are you all? It's too quiet here, we need company!!! X
