THE ORIGINAL GANG OF MUSHROOM ROPE BUILDERS (i.e Mel & Em's thread cont...)
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This is the start of a new journey for me and my much loved friends from the original Oesophegus thread on general discussions.
We have become a close group and this will be our new home to continue our journey as life has become very hard for many of us and we keep re-living our journeys with lots of newbies which puts us all back a bit.
So my lovely friends Mel, Sam, Helen, Bern, Jac, Nic, Dawn, Sue, Cath, Lesley, Jani and the many other special friends Mel and I have made over the last 16 months this is it we have a new home.
Love to all and extra strength to carry us through our next stage XXX
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Jac, you are a beautiful lady. I am sending you a big hug which you will feel from the tips of your toes to the top of your fuzzy head!!! Just had to say that XXX
Don't think I'll be around this evening...now don't all go crying at once....before I go I want to tell you why. After tea, DH brought each child's memory box to the table, then he talked the children through everything that was inside them.....all the children had a chance to look, feel and ask questions....he told him how this was a happy box...a box to remember not to be sad....then they talked about how they would still talk to each other, they practiced closing their eyes and saying "hello daddy" "daddy can you help?" and "I still love you". All the things were put back in and the children hugged their daddy and thanked him and told him that they wouldn't forget him. Okay to many it's only a box full of trinkets, pictures, music and books but to me it is yet another time that DH has stepped up to the mark and has done something terribly brave for his children. We are shattered now, tired but surprisingly not sad...God blessed us with this moment, DH had the chance to share and the children the chance to listen... Boxes are collected and put away with the litte ones knowing how much they are loved by their daddy. Tonight as you close your eyes I hope you can remember how blessed we all are, we are only sad because we had the experience of someone wonderful in our lives! Good night and God Bless to you all!
Jac, I'm so glad that you and DH have managed to do the boxes with such love and to be able to sit the children down and talk them through what there boxes represent is truly amazing. You are both such wonderful people and your children wi remember how much love was involved in making those boxes for each of them. For the kids to be able to one day look back and feel there Dad in those boxes I believe will bring them the most amazing strength and immense proudness for the way as a family you all dealt with a hideous situation that was unfairly thrown at you.
Jac, I don't know where your strength comes from and I am in awe of how you are coping, keep doing it hun you are wonderful.
okay so I stayed for 5 more...ems thankyou but my strength comes only from the love I have for my husband and our combined love for our children..... When I come to this site I absorb the strength you all have and I feel I can accomplish anything...Thank you all!
You are amazing and I for one am totally amazed at how you and dh are coping. Dont get me wrong I half understand how hard it is and how focused you are needing to be but bloody hell girl you two are sticking those two fingers up are'nt you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Auch ems I think we have accepted that soon the children won't have their daddy and we can crumble, and you know I do that so well, or help prepare the way for the children.You know whats weird DH and I are over the moon to have finished these....each child went and got the fathers day card they had given their daddy this year for their box, just so their daddy would know that he was loved too! Are we afraid...Hell yes!....every single day, do we know DH's fate.... unfortunatly so, but we cann't change that. You know I truly believed DH should have left this world last Thursday, but he didn't, he is still here being a Daddy! I am humbled by his committment.
If you look back on our early days on here you will find we all said our love for our loved ones would get us through how right that is with you, dh and the kids.
Ems me thinks you are doubting your strength...how many times have I, for one, have been very down and you my friend have, even though you were aching inside...helped! You have more strength than you know. Your Dad must look down and feel very proud.
Don't be nice to me Jac I do nothing but cry at the minute ha ha. I think if I get through these next couple of weeks without losing the plot too much it will be fab.
Goodnight hunny give the kiddies an extra hug from me for being so brave XXX
I SALUTE YOU and DH. Thank you so much for sharing your day with us. I feel truly humbled at all of your love and strength and love (again!). You have a beautiful soul and I hope toniht as a family you all just be. Today has been extremely special. Told you, you can do whatver you want!! Love Bern xx
