THE ORIGINAL GANG OF MUSHROOM ROPE BUILDERS (i.e Mel & Em's thread cont...)

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FOR ALL!!!!
Aren't we doing good today, we've opened up!!!!

Right back home from oral surgeon, rang him this morning....he sealed DH's teeth, filed abit away and made him feel more human. All this he did free of charge....There are some good people out there still!!!!!

Why afterthe success of today do I still feel so angry......

So sorry all my lovely friends.

Having a brain not working day, despite the wonders of neurofen !

I wish I had the right words, but at present I don't, so I will just wear my big floopy hat, eat mars bars, think wonderful thoughts about you all, and iron my ninja suit just in case.

Lovvvvvvvvvvvvvvvveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee


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Aww Jacs,

You have so much going on my lovely, your brain is processing so much. That even a good day may not always get rid of the underlining feeling.

Now, I have a tip....try it.....start jumps with a pair of knickers on your head, up and down the hall - where you pass a mirror. You xon't be able to help but smile at how silly you look and if you get the kids doing it too, the anger will start to subside. You have to wear knickers though, otherwise it doesn't work!!!

Yesterday was big day for you. You and DH are learning together and neither of you have a handbook as to how to deal with this. There will be differences along the way, there will be misunderstandings. What is important is that YOu are by DH's side and he KNOWS you are there for him. So go and give him a cuddle or just sit on the sofa and hold hands.

Big hugs for you lovely lady. Hey, I'm more than ok you know. I don't hide away. I am not afraid of my emotions. I am a very lucky lady even though those around me think I am very unlucky!! I am very lucky as I have wonderful people around me. I refuse to be scared, even when I am. Cause I don't want to live my life thinking what if...... My motto is, I have one life and I live it the best I can, with the best people that I can...... So, I do. I gained more from meeting cancer than it took away. My dads stature grew the stronger the illness became. So, he shone brighter whilst cancer hid in the shadows. I am grateful and blessed for much and if I had to learn the hard way, then it is a lesson that I will never forget.

Keep writing jac. Everyone keep writing. You are all SUPERB and I am humbled by you all. Love Bern xx

Ditto !

Good to see everyone getting their feelings, fears & worries out in the open.
Hugs to each and every one of you.
If you don't mind i'll just stay here on the side lines observing, not quite ready to take the stand yet.

Jacs, i'm beaming with pride for you girl!!!!

Rochelle,

Honey will be thinking of you tomorrow. A few tips for you, which I did and you might find helpful?

Big hat or sunglasses, that keep your privacy. I had a picture of my dad in my handbag - pic that always makes me smile and I knew would give me the strength if I needed it. I also had maltesers in my bag - dad used to buy them for me. I did nearly choke on one before doing the tribute, so that stopped me feeling sad!!

Go and get your hair done and put on your lippy. You send your mum off in style honey and look great. If people start asking you questions which you don't want to answer, just don't answer them.

You have plenty of courage honey. You have already said goodbye to your mum. You were with her. She is with you now honey. Tomorrow I hope you hear many fun stories filled with love for your mum. You have done your mum proud already.

With much love Bern xx


nic - as long as you are still here honey. We are ready for you when you are. Big hug for you too X

Hi every one I am a newbie so I am not sure what to say except that from all that I have read I can honestly say I am proud of everybody here. The way in which all on her support each other even though we are just names on a computer screen means a lot and my love and wishes are with you all

Loads of love
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Hello funny,

nice to meet you and thank you for your kind words. Strange how people start off being names then over time, you know that person and can tell from the tone of writing or the fact that they are not posting that something is wrong. Maybe we are all masochists cause we feel each others pain. We feel each others joy and I, like you said, often feel ever so proud of the beauties here.

Its important to remember the beauty of life and this site always reminds me of that. You have come to a good place Funny and I don't think you will be a 'newbie' for long!! Bern xx

Hello

It's a bit tricky for me to hop to my computer so I haven't been posting much. I'm getting rather fed up know of hopping and crawling and getting up from my seat sparingly. To top it all got called a wuss but a nurse at work for not putting my shoe on (it wouldn't fit due to the swelling) and a perplexed look for not being able to walk despite it being only the 4th day anniversary of the break. I'm at work tomorrow and will be biting my tongue if she opens her mouth as we'll be at a team building event and it won't be a good start!

First off can we stop apologising for saying what we think. We're not attacking anyone else but talking about how we feel and we need to be able to feel free to do that here. No-one has offended me but I will be offended if I'm not given the change to help. OK?!

I really feel for you all and suspected something was going as it's been very quiet here. I did some training the other week at work and it was an approach to dealing with issues between a team. You draw a circle within a circle. The outer circle you write all the things you can do absolutely nothing about. The inner circle, the circle of influence, you write all the things you can change. It's very easy to say here isn't it but it is something I want to try to take into my personal life in order to feel empowered and to prevent me from stressing over things I can do nothing about. For some of you, you will just fight through each day and muddle your way through, others might need to feel they are structured in their approach. Maybe it's worth giving it a try so you can focus on what you can make better and take little steps towards accepting the things you can't?

Whatever you do, those of you who are struggling now, lets stick together.

Lots of Love

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