THE ORIGINAL GANG OF MUSHROOM ROPE BUILDERS (i.e Mel & Em's thread cont...)
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This is the start of a new journey for me and my much loved friends from the original Oesophegus thread on general discussions.
We have become a close group and this will be our new home to continue our journey as life has become very hard for many of us and we keep re-living our journeys with lots of newbies which puts us all back a bit.
So my lovely friends Mel, Sam, Helen, Bern, Jac, Nic, Dawn, Sue, Cath, Lesley, Jani and the many other special friends Mel and I have made over the last 16 months this is it we have a new home.
Love to all and extra strength to carry us through our next stage XXX
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Hey Michelle,
stop beating yourself up. You are allowed to feel pants and to be honest those around you have to understand. If they don't, sadly one day they will.
Close your eyes. Take some deep breaths and think of all the times your dad made you proud. Of all the times you saw his strength and dignity. Of all the times you felt honoured to be his daughter. This is a double edged sword, cause you will think of what you are missing out on. Switch off. Look at what you shared. Look at the love and feel it in your heart. When you heart constricts, is it the pain of missing, or your dad giving your heart a hug??? I think the latter.
Raise a glass to your dad and all dads. I let go balloons today and shed some tears. I then went and had a fathers day lunch - which even though in one way I was dreading - all my choice - I am glad I did it. Celebrate our dads lives. I keep this poem close to my memory a lot of the times and this gives me strength..
He is Gone You can shed tears that he is gone, Or you can smile because he lived, You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back, Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can't see him Or you can be full of the love that you shared, You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday, Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him and only that he is gone Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on, You can cry and close your mind be empty and turn your back, Or you can do what he would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on. David Harkins
Big hugs Michelle, to you and everyone here. Love Bern xx
What a beautiful poem Bern.... We've done the silly socks, underwear and tee-shirt, chocolate medallion, trophy and sentimental cards. We've bought DH books on chickens, had a rose named for our family and bought a tree. DH is in bed now but we can't wait until he gets up to we cut the Dad cake....Over the top I think not.... I love my husband and lets face it without me he wouldn't be celebrating Father's day...guess thats a win win situation all round LOL! There's no denying that this has been a day from hell, but we tried to make the most of it...I hope you all did too, whatever your personal circumstances.... Big Hugs!!!!
Your'e one in a million Bern, Thank-you. You must make your Dad so proud. Am glad you had a nice lunch. I will have the strength to do that, just maybe next Fathers Day. My Dad loved going for meals, I guess it's still so raw for me, that the thought of sitting in a resturant with lots of daughters and fathers fill's me with pain at the moment. But yes I am honured to call him my Dad and we had a wonderful relationship and I am very lucky to have experienced that as not all children have such a relationship with their parents. Much love to you Bern, Michelle
I found today difficult too, which seems wrong as my Dad is still here, but it's just a day that we all would have been together, and I could feel my Mum's absence.
I got dad a framed photo, that I had enlarged, of Mum and me at 4 years old. It was his favorite, but I could read his mind because although he loves it, I'm not sure if he is ready to have it up and look at it every day.
We went to the cemetery, and it was filled with different families all visiting their Dad's. There were balloons, flags, windmills and flowers everywhere, and although there was sadness, I felt this overwhelming feeling of happiness, because love carries on. It's not something you lose, not something that breaks, It's something that is there forever.
To all my brave friends, I wish you courage strength and comfort, always.
Well, yesterday was hard for many of us but it's now the start of a new week so let's hope it's a better one for us all.
Mel - Your words in your post were lovely and so true, love is there forever. I can totally understand why you found yesterday difficult too. The framed photo you gave your Dad was a wonderful idea and will, in time, give him a lot of pleasure. Big hugs my friend X
Em - are you ok hun? You're not posting much these days X
Some good news to cheer everyone up, in case you don't already know, THE PIPSTER HAS ARRIVED!!!
He is called Will and was born yesterday at 6.15am and weighed 9lb!!! He was born by c section and both mum and little boy are just fine. Yippee, we are all cyber aunties now!
OoOOO Congratulations to Wendy and hubby. Fantastic News!!!
Ok groovy gang, I need ypou to put your thinking caps on please. As you will be aware, I am doing the race for life this Sunday. I have just had a quote for printing names on my shirt and the cheapest quote is £72. Yep, you read that right...£72!! I would rather give that money to the charity.
So, do you have any ideas how I can get names permanently onto my shirt, without spending a fortune to a private company? You mums out there, may have some cheeky solutions?? I am hoping. Also, if you want me to run in honour of a loved one, please mail me or post. Need to get this sorted ASAP. Thank you very much for your help. Love Bern xx
PS: Jac great to see you around honey and glad you all had a good day yesterday. XX
