First Meeting

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i am being positively pessimistic as my meeting with social services draws closer. it is tomorrow and is the first step of my tiny complaint. i have complained to social services about the nursing home that my father died in, i have complained to the nursing home that likes to ignore me, to my mp, to the care quality commission. and those complaints are just to do with my father dying in agony, not having morphine administered and left to basically drown in the fluid in his lungs. you know, minor things, and all the other little annoyances and hurt that go along with caring for your loved and dying ones, whilst being completely ignored and left alone with 'it all'.

so, i am steeling myself for a disappointment, a brush off tomorrow.

as for my other ongoing complaint, regarding hillingdon council and providing carers for my father that stole and took advantage in almost every way, failing to provide proper care, becoming beneficiaries and executrix of my fathers will, they are supposed to be put on POVA, protection of vulnerable adults list, and barred from working with vulnerable people. supposed. when this will happen i dont know. although the lib dem shadow health secretary's team intend to 'pursue matter', isa are very unforthcoming in their communications, all i would like to know is a reasonable timeframe for this to happen. hillingdon borough council have confirmed that this is what they want to do via letter. so as for all of the public statements, and new policies, people remain working, unchecked, with sick, frail, elderly adults. they are automatically given trust by the poor damn folk that rely so heavily on them, and are still taking advantage in the cruellest way.

so this is my start. i dont expect to change the world, im too old for that. or even to right a few wrongs. just to keep fighting and make a mess, encourage others to complain, because being silent keeps such abuses happening again and again and again.

 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Don't let them fob you off love. This is beyond belief in this day and age. Dig your heels in and stick to your guns. No one  should have to go through this, it is disgraceful....love Carol x.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    We just don't complain enough Alice. It's dreadful that your father had to die this way. I hope you get somewhere in your endeavour to right some wrongs and okay, you may not change the world but at least you'll have brought what's not working to the attention of those that just might be able to change things. Good luck Alice, good on you. I'm sure your dad would be extremely proud.

    Angela x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Society is judged by the way it treats its old, its young and its infirm.

                                     Anon.

    Our present society can only be described as a dogs breakfast.If you dont shout and make a nuisance of yourself nobody cares about you. We have to fight and argue for everything we get. Social Services are in a no-win situation, whatever they do is wrong. The Politically Correct people see to that.

    If cancer patients walked around smashing windows, stealing cars, shoplifting etc. we would be better provided for. Until you become a 'pain in the butt' nobody listens. Thats my little 'rant' over, feel a bit better now.

    Bill xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Good luck Alice, you are so right to complain but it is hard work. I am sorry about your dad but as Angela says I'm sure he would be proud of you.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I agree - if it wasn't for people like you Alice, there would be even more charlatans and cheats in the social care system. I complained formally after a radiologist 'missed' my son's 11cm tumour, and although I felt he was genuinely sorry, I felt better for just having my voice 'heard', and raising awareness of things. Good luck to you xx jeanie