Life is just not fair

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On the 22nd July my world collapsed around me when my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer which has already spread to his brain, he is 67 and he is my whole world. Dad is going through a divorce at the moment after parting from my Mam last August so he has had the worst year ever. Dad had his first chemo session yesterday (14th August) which was Carboplatin and Gemicitabine, today he is a little tired but no other side effects, next session is Friday. Dad is a very very heavy smoker but he took himself to the smoking clinic on Tuesday and hasn't had a cigarette since Wednesday evening - i am so very proud of him. I am trying to be strong for my Dad but find it very hard when I am not around him. I am not sure i would cope at all without his positive mind set and my fab boyfriend I am still working full time at the moment - Dad wants me to carry on as normal. I have time off for his chemo and stay most nights with him
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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Aww thank so much for that really lovely post!  I hope your ok x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Sam -

    I recently got a cancer diagnosis for my Dad and will admit, I don't know how you are staying so positive through this. I admire you for that. It is hard to even fathom how quickly life can change. My father is 62 and just retired 4 months ago. The hardest part is hearing about all the plans he had for retirement and plans with my mother and now he cannot do them. (The cancer in his brain caused a stroke, which left him paralyzed on the left side.)

    We can not even bring him home because he requires care and therapy for the stroke ... but at the same time, we know what the cancer will do to him eventually and that is very hard to cope with as well. I hope that the day will come where I can stay as positive about all this and deal with it in the way you are. My father was always the strong one in the family and now with him in the condition he is, I feel like everything is lost.

    I just wanted to let you know that hearing about how you are dealing with this is helpful because right now I feel like I am just a shell going through life. Of course it has been less than 2 weeks since this all happened, so maybe it gets easier with time? Thanks for your story and for the others' stories in this blog. I wish you and your families the best during this tough time.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hey

    I am so sorry to read your response, life really isn’t fair – your Dad should now be enjoying his retirement.  I hope today you’re feeling a bit stronger.  I know I’d be the same and want him home but remember he is in good hands with people who can look after him properly.  Try to enjoy every second you spend with him.  Stay strong and let me know how you get on xx

    I haven’t coped so well in the last week and haven’t made work but I have been poorly myself with a chest infection so I am hoping once its gone I will be ok again xx