Life is just not fair

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On the 22nd July my world collapsed around me when my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer which has already spread to his brain, he is 67 and he is my whole world. Dad is going through a divorce at the moment after parting from my Mam last August so he has had the worst year ever. Dad had his first chemo session yesterday (14th August) which was Carboplatin and Gemicitabine, today he is a little tired but no other side effects, next session is Friday. Dad is a very very heavy smoker but he took himself to the smoking clinic on Tuesday and hasn't had a cigarette since Wednesday evening - i am so very proud of him. I am trying to be strong for my Dad but find it very hard when I am not around him. I am not sure i would cope at all without his positive mind set and my fab boyfriend I am still working full time at the moment - Dad wants me to carry on as normal. I have time off for his chemo and stay most nights with him
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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hiya Sam

    Just read your blog, i can truly empathise with your Dad, im newly diagnosed (July 15th) starting treatment in ten days, im 47 and i separated from my husband a year gone May, its extra hard when you havent got a partner, i know all my family members and friends have been brilliant but at night when you go to bed you are on your own with no one to snuggle up to and no one there to tell you everythings gonna be ok!  My daughters are grown up too only one left at home and she is going out tonight which i fully support cos she needs an escapism too, but im here alone and thats when your mind wanders, think it will be an early night for me LOL

    Love to your dad.

    Take care

    Jill

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    ooh Jill i am so sorry to hear that :-(  Where is your cancer?  Big hugs xx

    I am sure your daughter will be in two minds as to weather she should go out or not but she will need some "her" time.  I find it very hard to leave my Dad and stay at my own place - i sleep better when i am at his and i know he is ok. xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    First found a lump in my neck, turned out to be secondaries, had pet scan found primary in my left tonsil, who has that lol

    Had my tonsils out ten days ago ready for radio and chemo on 25th!

    Yeh she does need "her" time and i tell her to go out with my blessing and have a few for me LOL

    Jill

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Glad to see that you have written a blog. Im feeling pretty much the same as you too right now and the last week has been a real rollercoaster ride , Im glad to hear that your dad is doing well after his first chemo session.

    Keep positive

    Rob

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I'm a lung cancer case too, had surgery 14 months ago and still here!! I gave up the fags straight away, the surgery left me too sore to risk a cough. Give him all our regards and get him on here reading the blogs and the jokes as well. We will all promise to SHOUT AT HIM lol if he insists on smoking.

    Love, Bill xxx