the journey

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my amazing dad has been battling cancer for nearly 2 years now(wish i had found this site then)i thought i would write a diary /blog of how his treatment is going. it all began back in april 2009 when a urine infection showed up a tumour on his right kidney.he was whisked in to hospital to have the kidney removed within a week and the op was a success.he felt great after the op and back to normal within days so it came as a great shock to us all at his 3 month check up that the cancer had returned.they found small nodules on his lungs and tumours in the bone(hip and bottom of back) by the start of october dad had been given the cancer drug sutent.the side effects he felt made him lose weight all his hair went snowy white,had no taste for food and nausea. the nausea was controlled with different drugs.one of the good things about this treatment was you got a 2 week break in each cycle so on his 2 weeks off his appetite returned and he started to feel better. the sutent meds kept him ticking away for 14 months.we got the news end of nov begining of dec 2010 that a tumour in the spine had grown from 7cm to 18cm so the sutent was not keeping the cancer at bay so he was removed from it. this came as a huge blow to mum,dad myself and brother as who knew what the next step would be. he suffered with pains in his legs and a scan showed a non malignant tumour compressing the spine making the legs painful so he had 2 lots of radiotherapy which def helped and shrunk the tumour.dad was told of a new drug that they wanted him to trial.sadly he was not suitable for the trial due to blood counts etc but was told there was a fairly new cancer drug called everolimus(afinitor) they wanted him to try. this however would need funding.the price was very high but like the sutent(which needed funding we were optomistic.the news back 2 weeks later was no PCT had turned us down but dads consultant had applied to another company and they said yes.dad has been on the new treatment 10 days now.the main side effect of this is such a sore swollen mouth with ulcers which stops his ability to eat and drink.he does seem quite out of it at the moment so we are contacting mcmillan nurses and his cancer nurse.

7th march 2011

dad has been admitted to hospital.for the last 4 days or so he has been quite out of it.he is very dissorientated ,grabbing for things that are not there,hallucinations,sleeping 22 hours a day.we have spoken to a nurse and she seems to think it could be to do with his type 2 diabetes as he had a urine reading of 27.8(very high) we were told to take dad to his cancer ward at the hospital where it seems it is not the diabetes but a build up of morphine pain relief(mum did stop giving him this 2 days ago as pain was ok and because he seemed so out of it)they have kept dad in for at least overnite and the morphine has been stopped. they have also stopped the cancer drug for now as his poor mouth is so sore so they want to try an get him back to better health before restarting the drug again. i will update when i have more news.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    MONDAY APRIL 25th 2011

    things have been quite up and down the last 10 days or so..dad has still been getting panic attacks.always at night which is so much more scarier for him. he now has oxygen at home which he uses quite often as he has trouble breathing and has a dry cough.he has also had a hospital bed delivered to home now. he has only slept the whole night through a few times as he confided in me that he is scared to sleep in case he does not wake up(what on earth can we say to ease this worry,it baffles me this one).dad was also admitted to hospital friday just gone with chest pains.heart attack etc was ruled out.it seems maybe a few of the ribs have cracked or broken and this seems because the cancer is eating away at the bones. dad came home saturday afternoon and on easter sunday we as a whole family(12 of us) went to a beautiful house and gardens for the day where the children ran around doing an easter egg hunt and us grown ups sat an lazed in the sun eating lunch. dad had a fab time even if he was a little tired and seemed to get great pleasure spending time with us all laughing and smiling.

    his pain is still not too severe at the moment. he has been given painkillers for his anxiety attacks but it seems they have the same effect as the morphine did so he is very loath to take them

    keep fighting dad.we love you x x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    3 MAY 2011

    spent the afternoon with dad yesterday.he now has a lump on the back of his neck so holding his head up makes things difficult.he is seeing the oncologist thursday so hopefully this will shed more light..am just hoping its not another tumour..dad is still not sleeping at night,he becomes very agitated and stressed which also means mum is not getting any sleep either.its such a worry as she so needs her sleep to then care for dad the next day.we have offered to go over and spend the night and she can go upstairs to sleep but this offer has been declined.mum and dad are just soo devoted to each other they wont be parted which in some ways is so lovely ...my eldest charlie now knows dad only has months left and it hit her quite hard yesterday when we were there.dad needed his oxygen to move from the kitchen back to the lounge and he coulnt catch his breath.this scared her and i think its truly sunk in that her beloved grandad is going to die.all i could do was take her upstairs and comfort her and explain that  even now i have moments when im with dad and just well up inside and take myself off to another room for a little cry.ive told her this is perfectly ok and it will do u good to cry as bottling it up wont help at all.

    i will post back again when dad has seen the oncologist

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Twizz.

    I just wanted to send you all my best wishes and hope that you are all ok and your Dad is bearing up.

    Your blog is actually inspiring and am sure help to others. You are extremely brave to have the forthought to start it, Im sure its not always easy to update.

    You are in my thoughts

    Kim xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    hi TWIZZ love and hugs hunni hope to see you in caht soon xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    to kim and sam

    thankyou for your messages.i am finding it hard to update at times but something kicks in and i find its something i have to do no matter how hard it gets at times(i always have my extended family here for support)

    sam i will get back to chat soon as its been ages since ive been there

    sending hugs to you both

    twizz (wendie)