the journey

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my amazing dad has been battling cancer for nearly 2 years now(wish i had found this site then)i thought i would write a diary /blog of how his treatment is going. it all began back in april 2009 when a urine infection showed up a tumour on his right kidney.he was whisked in to hospital to have the kidney removed within a week and the op was a success.he felt great after the op and back to normal within days so it came as a great shock to us all at his 3 month check up that the cancer had returned.they found small nodules on his lungs and tumours in the bone(hip and bottom of back) by the start of october dad had been given the cancer drug sutent.the side effects he felt made him lose weight all his hair went snowy white,had no taste for food and nausea. the nausea was controlled with different drugs.one of the good things about this treatment was you got a 2 week break in each cycle so on his 2 weeks off his appetite returned and he started to feel better. the sutent meds kept him ticking away for 14 months.we got the news end of nov begining of dec 2010 that a tumour in the spine had grown from 7cm to 18cm so the sutent was not keeping the cancer at bay so he was removed from it. this came as a huge blow to mum,dad myself and brother as who knew what the next step would be. he suffered with pains in his legs and a scan showed a non malignant tumour compressing the spine making the legs painful so he had 2 lots of radiotherapy which def helped and shrunk the tumour.dad was told of a new drug that they wanted him to trial.sadly he was not suitable for the trial due to blood counts etc but was told there was a fairly new cancer drug called everolimus(afinitor) they wanted him to try. this however would need funding.the price was very high but like the sutent(which needed funding we were optomistic.the news back 2 weeks later was no PCT had turned us down but dads consultant had applied to another company and they said yes.dad has been on the new treatment 10 days now.the main side effect of this is such a sore swollen mouth with ulcers which stops his ability to eat and drink.he does seem quite out of it at the moment so we are contacting mcmillan nurses and his cancer nurse.

7th march 2011

dad has been admitted to hospital.for the last 4 days or so he has been quite out of it.he is very dissorientated ,grabbing for things that are not there,hallucinations,sleeping 22 hours a day.we have spoken to a nurse and she seems to think it could be to do with his type 2 diabetes as he had a urine reading of 27.8(very high) we were told to take dad to his cancer ward at the hospital where it seems it is not the diabetes but a build up of morphine pain relief(mum did stop giving him this 2 days ago as pain was ok and because he seemed so out of it)they have kept dad in for at least overnite and the morphine has been stopped. they have also stopped the cancer drug for now as his poor mouth is so sore so they want to try an get him back to better health before restarting the drug again. i will update when i have more news.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    may 26th 2011

    i got to the hospice at lunchtime today and dad called my name an asked for help.this is so upsetting.my brother was here as well as mum sean and charlie an two of mum an dads friends.the nurses came and sedated dad and the dr came to chat to us.she told us dad was dying and had days left...

    We are all devasted and well words cant describe how we are.dad had a very peaceful afternoon drifting in an out of sleep and we all chatted around him.

    He became very anxious after his grandchildren popped into see him around 6pm and was begging for help...his cancer nurse who had been off for two days came an calmed him an then spoke to us outside the room.she said she was amazed he was still here and what a brave fighting man he is.the other nurse then told us that things had moved on now and that they are keeping him sedated all the time which is heartbreaking....now all we can do is wait

    mum myself sean and steve are all stayin overnight here to b with dad.he is very peaceful and sleeping but is such a fighter.

    Any of u reading this can u please light a candle for my amazing dad on his final journey

    we love u sooooo much dad and are so proud of you and how you have battled this cruel ruthless illness

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    MAY 27th 2011

    today at 8.30 am my wonderful amazing very very brave dad passed away peacefully with mum and myself holding his hand

    my brother had just left to go into the office to sort out a few things.mum myself and sean went into see dad as the nurses had just washed him and made him comfy again. his breathing was very different,much slower so i rang my brother immediatley to come back.dad passed away about 10 mins later just before my brother arrived back....my heart breaks for steve as he so wishes he had not left and nothing we can say will change that.about 5 mins after dad passed my eldest charlie arrived and as soon as she saw us she knew and she broke her heart.the nurses took us into the quiet room where we could talk and cry and then we went back in to sit with dad.he looked so very very peaceful.and we each had some time alone with him.i cant write any more now but will continue with my blog and my feelings

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Wendie i am so so sorry for the loss of your dad he meant so much to you and your family. My thoughts and love are with you hunni at this awfull timexxsamxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I would just like to send our most heart-felt condolences to you and your family, Twizz.  What a lovely Dad he sounds and what a brave man he was.  He is at peace now and free of the distress and anxiety.  Our thoughts will be with you in the days ahead.

    xxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    MAY 28th 2011

    fell asleep last night about midnight.it was a very surreal evening.me sean mum steve charlie and josh were all at mums for the evening.earlier in the afternoon was a knock on the door and it was my brothers best mate.steve had spoken to him an he just left work and showed up to be with us...now that what u call a best friend!!!

    we got a takeaway in the evening and opened a bottle of wine...very strange night..1 min laughing about  things the next sobbing.sean has been totally amazing and a tower of strength for us all.he spoke to the funeral directors and they came to see us yesterday afternoon to discuss our plans.nothing can happen untill tuesday being a bank holiday so we are all in limbo a bit now.

    mum fell asleep on the sofa for an hour and then woke just after midnite and went to bed.we went to bed at midnite and i remember crying myself gently to sleep and the first thing i noticed when i woke up was i was crying.just gentle tears.

    im now going to get ready as a good friend of mine is getting  married today and i am doing her hair.charlie asked if i was going to cancel but of course i wont.how on earth can you let a bride down on her wedding day? i will be there in a few hours to see this very lucky bride who has a dad to walk her down the aisle...im not bitter she has her dad  but i do feel incredibly sad my dad will walk me down the aisle in spirit and not person now in 3 weeks

    we will be back at mums later so may update again this evening