feeling unwell

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Well the last few days ive been feleing unwell which isnt like me really,ive had a pain in my right side coming on since Wed and i didnt want to make a fuss so just kept taking more and more painkillers till i realised on Thursday tea time that i had had my dosage for the day and there was nothing left but hotwater bottles for bedtime,so i phoned my gp's to ask for an advice call only to be told that there was no appointments for advice calls left and that if i had a problem to go to A and E that night or phone back in the morning for an advice call then,great eh! Eventually i called my renal co ordinator who told me to take more painkillers,rest and come in first thing in the morning to be seen by a consultant. We got there at 9.30 and i was seen straight away form the most lovely woman consultant that i had never met before,she arranged a scan within the hour and arranged a bed on the renal tranplant ward if needed,i didnt realise it was a CT scan i was going for an i took a huge panic attack in front of the reg who had came to put a venflon in,poor him,he had to go to the waiting room to get Billy who explained to him what was happening to me more and more,went for the scan which was pretty uneventful then up to the ward to wait. Finally got results at 2pm which didnt show infection but did show a large area of post op fluid but as there was no infection she sent me home with strict sofa rest and painkillers and to be reviewed Monday if things havent settled. While i was waiting for results my dad called to say his brother was also in the renal unit with acute renal failure and was about to go on dialysis,the Evans curse strikes again.

Came home to a mess,Billy was pretty pissed off with the kids as they older two hadnt done a thing,then the oldest asked for money which he woke me up to ask for,i gave him £10 which Billy wasnt happy about,then he said he didnt know if he was going back to a wee job he managed to get as he couldnt be bothered just now and the doctor told him to take some time to get his head together,bloody cheek she has,he hasnt been working since May and lives off me and pocket money from his grandad,i feel she is just encouraging him to lay about on his arse all day adding to my stress. Anyway,demanding little one came home from skate park and told billy his helmet was crap (he picked it) and he wanted it changed,billy then took to the bedroom and hasnt been seen since,Logan has been up to see him and he just says he has had enough.....great eh. maybe my illness and my kids have just pushed him too far this time.Dont know what ill do if he leaves.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Oh Leigh, sorry to hear you are having a tough time. I know how you feel with the selfish teenager. I have one who is the same. My sister in law was doing housework the other day and daughter asked why. I said "because you are so lazy you won't" and she said "why can't you do it!!" Kids!!

    My husband tends to go to work and stay there until late when he has had enough, which is most of the time as  he doesn't know how to cope with everything.

    I hope things improve for you soon. Love and hugs. Debbie. xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Kids and husbands, great most of the time, but exasperating at others.  I so remember the stress I used to feel when my sons were teenagers. You've got the added stress of your cancer and everything that goes with it. It's not surprising that everything comes to a head every now and then. I'm sure Billy has just had to cool off, the bedroom is where I always like to go to take deep breaths, count to ten and have some peace and quiet. This is one of those blips we have in life, particularly when teenagers are involved. Hopefully all will be well by tomorrow.

    ((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))

    Angela xxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    (((((((((((((((Leigh))))))))))))))))

    You are under so much pressure I am worried you will just explode or lose the plot.

    Kids are the same everywhere, the world does revolve around THEM you know! Mum's don't get ill fullstop and if they do, they carry on regardless, its expected.

    I really hope things get better.  Here (and FB) if ya need a chat or company - virtual as it is.

    Love & Strength

    Debs xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Oh Leigh life's being really unfair on you lately. Not sure what to say but to just say take time for yourself let the rest sort themselves out and try to shut them out for now and rest! You have enough to cope with, without the 'normal' day to day things that go on around us.

    Kids are always a pain in the ar-e and they don't get easier as they get older and move out, all their little problems come back to home! I've learnt I have to shut off sometimes and rest and be selfish if that's what it is and make time for myself.

    Hope the weekend goes better than the last few days for you!

    Take care,

    Jackie x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    thanks again everyone for the kind words and your understanding,Billy sisnt leave the bedroon all night and i think the kids are a wee bit scared he will leave but i dont think that will do them any harm at all.Im having a sofa day today as im still in pain and the house can fall down round my ears for all i care.

    Hope you all have a nice weekend,

    Leigh xx