Hello all
I have just joined and I thought I would introduce myself.
My name is Joanna and I am 35 years of age, split up with a long term partner 7 months ago, along the way I met Anne (44 - the lady stood in front of me in my photo), since we have met (only February) we have become inseperable. In March her disabled son Stephen (19) died and I was with her all the way when this happened, and in an odd way it helped me get through my split with my partner, kept my mind on other things.
Since her loss, she understandibly has been low and has had money worries...
For a few months she began to cough alot, and it got worse and worse, to the extent she was being sick and coughing up blood. Doctors said it was a chest infection and twice she was on antibiotics but with no change.
Was sent for and xray and they did spot something but again antibiotics.
Finally sent to the main hospital for tests and they thought it might be a blood clot in her lung.
She was finally told it was cancer and was inoperable because of the position it was - middle of her chest/left lung.
She was then told it was small cell lung cancer and the tumour was 5cm in size.
Told it was terminal.
This week meetings with consultants and they are going to treat her with some strong chemo and hopefully radiotherapy too. To shrint and kill it. Of course she will lose her hair.
But was also told if it did come back at any time after, her diagnosis would not be good.
Chemo started today and as i type she is sat in the chemo suite receiving her first treatment, I was told i could not sit with her and I have come home, which I am upset about.
So thats it, the beginning of the journey.
I myself am very tired, confused, cannot be bothered to do anything, low, sad, so scared Im going to lose her and generally not been feeling good since all this has surfaced. But when I am with Anne, I am strong and cheerful.
The woman is amazing, she laughs and jokes but deep down she is very scared.
If anyome is going through simular, paticulary a friend and maybe of a simular age.
I would love to hear from u.
thanks for reading xxxxx
FormerMember
Hi Joanna, I agree with Liz. I cannot understand why you were not allowed to be with Anne in the chemo suite. I actually went myself to my first session thinking nobody would be allowed in. I was asked continually if I was on my own and did I want someone with me. They practically insisted that I bring someone with me which was a great support. Try asking them again and question why if they say no.
I hope everything goes well for Anne. Best wishes to you both, Christine xx
So sorry to hear about your friend, welcome to the site where you will find an abundance of help and support.
I also cannot understand why you were not allowed to stay for the chemo session?? I always go with my partner-never missed-hey they even give me a lunch box :)
when i went for my first chemo on my own they wanted to ring someone for me, and they were shocked that i wanted to get on with it on my own. You must ask
