Debs Daily Deliberations 240

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Asking Awkward Questions

Yesterday Tony and I took Lara shoe shopping, many normal women LOVE shoe shopping, as do I but having ickle feet I usually end up empty handed or disappointed.  Lara wanted some lace up plimsoles cos they are still kinda trendy (apparently) but her normal shoe size came up too big in plimmies and the size under was too small.  This was my fault (of course) and mother and daughter being of similar genetics......clashed.  We stomped around a few shops and she settled on a pair - after me keep saying, you sure they fit OK, I don't wanna get home and you won't wear them!  She also conned me into buying a pair of gold gladiator sandles and a new pair of black patent school shoes.  Me I got a new pair of brown cropped linen trousers - in the same size as my old black ones, but these fit, so now I can assure myself that my old trousers had shrunk and not me got fatter LOL

We then headed into Chavsda because thats the supermarket in town to get some food for the evening, now Eurovision is on, yes its cheese on cheese and rubbish and we are cr@p at it......but I grew up on Eurovision, we would all watch together with lots of snacks and lots of laughter.  The same tradition holds in our house, even Jack watches with us.  I digress slightly, as we enter the store, there are lots of people dressed in pink representing our local hospice, trying to drum up support for their midnight walk.

Now I don't want to alienate all the breast cancer patients on here, many of you are me mates and all....and I applaud the way your cause has been championed and really 'marketed' for want of a better word with its association with all things pink.  What I kinda objected to, is the fact our local hospice looks after people with ALL sorts of cancer's and terminal illness's so why did they choose Pink for their midnight walk? After all, Race for Life etc is already Pink.  A lot of people associate Pink with BC now and thats fab, fair dues to all the hard work the BC charities and research groups have put in to raising awareness.......but for a hospice I needed to know why (cos like everyone with cancer, I want to champion my own cause).  So I went right up and asked.

I was told that they chose pink because its vibrant and attracts attention.  Yeah yeah ok I can live with that........and they did say if I wanted to do the walk I could it in grey for Brain Tumours.  She then cleverly deflected my attention and said how fab I look considering (considering what Indifferent) which I wasn't going to disagree with he he.  Oh and I am free to go and look around anytime as they will more than likely "meet further down the line".........OK time to go, thanks for the chat......toodles......sheesh I was up the escalators in double time!

I hope I haven't offended anyone here with BC because that would upset me, I didn't set out with that agenda, I just needed answers for myself.  I wish the BT community could liaise with your publicity and awareness people, because they know their stuff!

So awkward question asked and I left thinking more about my own journey and knowing I will probably need a hospice, I don't ever want to be a burden to my husband and kids  or for them to have to take care of my 'personal needs'.........shudder at the thought.

So anyways, Eurovision!  I did have some rollmops as I like to get some food from the country thats hosting it eats .... but the Norwegians eat a lot of fish and I don't do fish apart from smoked salmon or fresh tuna.  The kids passed on the rollmops and went straight to popcorn!  So poor little Josh (Essex boy) came last, unsurprisingly.....what the feck were we thinking with the Pete Waterman song!  Graham was mildly amusing, still not a patch on Sir Terry but he'll have to do.

Right, gonna sign off before I put my ickle size 2.5-3 feet in with any other types of cancer on here. 

 

dunno what this is, but it was growing under my eucalyptus tree and I think its pretty!


Thought for today:
Courage is as often the outcome of despair as hope; in the one case we have nothing to lose, in the other, all to gain.
Diane DePoiters

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Debs, you could never offend anyone! As far as I am concerned we are all in the same boat. Having BC I do feel that other cancers do not as a high a profile and agree that we need to do all we can to raise awareness of all cancers. I also think it is scandalous that most funding for cancer research comes from charitable donations ( which often are from those families that have beeb affected by cancer)

    As to show shopping I hate it..I have smallish wide feet. If I find a pair thatfits, is comfy and reasonably fashionable ( but flat) I buy two or three pairs!!!

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    debs.... speaking as one of your BREAST CANCER buddies... you could never offend!.... and i totally agree... as you know i done the race for life today and am VERY happy to wear pink... but even the race for life is for all cancers... but only allow women to do it so there is without a doubt a SEA of pink there.....it really is down to women getting behind the whole B.C thing as we are more open about talking about everything including cancer.... did you read our banners... not a mention of B.C he he he... i support all cancer causes, maybe you should pick up the gauntlet and go all out to rais awareness, i know marsh (hiya marsh) is very vocal about her cause, me too gob on a stick me ha ha...gimmie the word and i will were grey anytime u ask mate

    liz xxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    When I did Race for Life, I did it for Grandad (Oesophagus) and my Nan (bowel) but yet I wore Pink - go figure!  Shame the RFL people didn't use a rainbow, that covers pretty much all!  I know lots of men who would do it too, why are they excluded anyhow?

    I think what everyone has said about donations mostly coming by way of patients/family and friends of cancer affected (not saying victims cos we are not) is very sad but true.  We are our own advocates and yes the BC ladies have done a downright fabulous job of it.

    Just glad to know I haven't upset anyone or lost any mates!!!

    Love & Strength to all.

    Debs xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Eurovision.....oh Debs you have gone right down in my estimationLOL, I was raised with it also and that is why I avoid it at all costs chic!!!!! Blimey I could ware loads of different cancer ribbons,I would be a walking rainbow....love Kezzertrude xx

    PS I used to love Garlic once too!!!!!!!

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Debs the pretty plant in your photo is one of the centaurea family common namd knapweed, comes in other colours, will spread like fits but good ground cover.

    Tony xx